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Guest blogger Karrine Steffans: How do I put this gently? Ummm, well, I guess there are no easy ways to discuss the "pain in the butt" subject of anal sex, therefore, please accept my apology, in advance, for putting you through this.

Many men and women enjoy the practice of what is technically called sodomy. There are thirty countries and eight states in the US in which opposite-sex sodomy is illegal. So, if you and your husband live in one of those eight states, you can always use the law as an excuse to not participate if anal sex comes up in conversation. That is, if you are not as adventurous as he, in that regard.

Now, I am usually an advocate for the adage "don't knock it 'til you try it," but in this case, I have to withdraw my advocation. Anal sex is not the sort of thing you just try, it is an event, a massive undertaking and a sex life-changing moment.

Anal sex, ladies, is not for the faint and certainly not for the woman who runs from pain. However, for those who have braved the initial shock of having something go in their out door, it becomes an exciting addition to their sexual adventures in marriage -- and I say "in marriage" because this is not the sort of thing you want to try with some guy who's just going to leave you in three months. No, this is strictly husband-and-wife, 'til death do we part stuff!

The orgasms alone may repay brave women for their dedication and, as with all fetishes and sexual practices, couples that participate find themselves further tied by their adventurous trusting of one another.

Breathe, relax and lubricate, brave ladies.

All this and more can be found in The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce and Keep the Man You Want, July 2009. Visit me at for more.

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jen February 23, 2009, 2:35 AM

My Ol’man and I are not married but have been with each other for 5 years{ just 2 note} In the 4th year is when I gave into him. Ofcourse being drunk that time and at first I had my doughts about it it hurt and continued to hurt for a few days after, but then we tryed it a few more times and I’ve grown to like it. I only gave in because of the wonder and only when I have a few drinks or pills in me, then it becomes GREAT

kixqueen February 25, 2009, 12:56 AM

Kim…it’s not torture, calm down please. Adventure is more like it. In sexually open, loving, adventurous, and communicative couples anal sex can be both a romantic, satisfying, and truly amazing experience…without alcohol. Note: both lube and communication are EXTREMELY important for safety and comfort and it isn’t for everyone but it is for some.

anon February 27, 2009, 3:52 PM

Any of you out there that say this is “disgusting, or immoral”, get a grip. If anal sex is enjoyed by 2 consensual adults, especially involved in a long term relationship (married or not), why be so judgemental. With all the stress and negativity in our lives these days, why not allow some pleasure. Like alot of you have said, “Don’t knock it til you try it.” I congratulate all the strong, open intelligent women out there that are confident enough with themselves to allow themselves the pleasure that sexual experimentation affords. We should all be more open and less UPTIGHT. I personally enjoy when my man enters me from behind. It is one of the very personal, erotic, deep connections that I feel with my partner. I’m very fortunate that I have learned and allowed myself one of the basic simple pleasure that a man and women can share…deep, erotic, hot sex. I sit here with a smile on my face, feeling happy, excited, and horny. I feel good. When was the last time some of you could say the same???

fussball March 2, 2009, 1:44 PM

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lieben March 3, 2009, 12:45 PM

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Paula March 13, 2009, 8:58 PM

Actually, the author should probably refrain from expressing legal opinions. The U.S. Supreme Court case of Lawrence v. Texas invalidated sodomy laws as a violation of the constitutional right to privacy when applied to consenting adults.

Besides, since when does the existence of a law dictate what you do in bed? Does anyone actually say, “well, I’d really like to do this with you, but it’s illegal, so I’m not going to?”

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Adventure March 18, 2009, 1:04 AM

For those of you who don’t like the idea, that’s fine. Don’t blame it on religion, though. I have read the Bible cover to cover and it doesn’t condemn a husband and wife doing this. It says that the marriage bed is pure and undefiled. Note: MARRIAGE BED. For some of us, it is something we would like to try just for something different and there are those of both genders who like that kind of thing. Good for them. We tried it and not so much for us, but if that’s your thing, more power to you.

yasmyn April 3, 2009, 8:48 PM

Well I’ll take her advice anyday. I’ve been with my husband since I was 19 and we’re equally interested and exploring our sexuality together. I’m thankful she went through all the bad experiences because that means I don’t have to. And as far as anal sex both my husband and I have only experienced it with each other. And he’s wonderful with everything we do sexually so I’ve had nothing but good experiences.

cid May 19, 2009, 5:49 PM

In response to Phil: A lot of sexual practices have been introduced due to pervasive availability of pron. SO WHAT!!! News Flash: These practices were around prior to porn. Any fetish one can think of has been around prior to celluloid. It has been my experience that if there is enough trust in a relationship, and both parties are comfortable with their bodies and open to new experiences, when done right, Anal sex can be a mind blowing experience. But, if one isn’t comfortable with the practice, it won’t work. In my opinion, sexuality is suppose to be a journey. If it’s getting old and boring one of the causes may be that the couple has stopped moving forward. Take a chance with that trusted mate. You may discover something great.

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