Here is one mom's open letter to those self-righteous parents who are condescending because they have multiple children. Seriously, stop. Who gave birth and made you boss?
Momlogic's Maria: When I was pregnant and complained about my symptoms, nothing was more annoying than the women around me who already had given birth. "Just wait!" they would say to me -- implying that my aches and pains didn't mean squat and I was a wimp for expressing my discomfort in the first place. Then I gave birth and had my newborn. Although I sort of get what they meant, I would never say that to a pregnant person. Doing that to someone takes away their perfectly legitimate concerns and complaints.
I thought my exposure to those "I'm a parent so I know everything" parents was over. Then I met people who have more than one child. Last night I was out for a family birthday dinner. My one and a half-year-old was happily eating unhealthy homemade potato chips in her highchair when the eight-year-old at the table behind us pushed his chair back. It clocked her right in the back of the head and her head jerked forward. She was startled and, of course, started crying. At that exact moment at another table near us, the waiters all gathered to sing "Happy Birthday" to someone. She cried even harder.
The father of the son was very apologetic at first and my husband and I were nice as can be, saying, "This happens. Don't worry about it!" I smiled at the boy and picked up my daughter to comfort her.
The father then said to us, "Is this your first?" My husband said yes. The father then nodded his head, gave us a half-cocked smile and said, "I figured. Once you have another one, things like this won't affect you as hard."
How are we overreacting if we pick our kid up to comfort her? I was so nice about his son banging his chair into my daughter's head! I was completely annoyed. After my daughter calmed down, we put her back into her highchair. The waiters started to gather again to sing to the next birthday person. The mother of the eight-year-old chair flinger said, "Uh oh. Watch out. She may cry again." UGH!!!!!