Pro-Choice? Quit Crying About Your Miscarriage

Pro-Choice? Quit Crying About Your Miscarriage

Thursday, February 5, 2009

filed under: health logic

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Guest blogger Gina: I respect women's right to choose, but I have little tolerance for pro-choicers who expect sympathy when they have a miscarriage.

These are women who put pro-choice buttons on their backpacks in college and ridiculed pro-lifers for being backward, repressive religious freaks who want to control the world's uteruses.

Ten years have passed and lo and behold, these women have grown up, gotten married, and now have the itch to have a baby of their own. Suddenly the monthly visitor that they were relieved to get when they were 20, now, at 32, plunges them into the depths of depression.

Like vegetarians who eat chicken but not beef, many pro-choice advocates want it both ways. It's a baby when they want it to be, it's a bundle of cells when they don't.

If you believe that pregnancy doesn't produce a baby until some magic number (13 weeks? 20 weeks? 40?), then you must also agree that it's ridiculous to break down in hysterics, set up a memorial website for your "angel," and seek out a grief counselor when you start bleeding in your first trimester. After all, you're simply talking about the loss of a conglomeration of microscopic cells, right?! That's hardly something to cry about.

Advocate all you want, but don't come crying to me when your hypocrisy hits you like a ton of bricks. If you are going to defend the right to abort babies, you don't have the right to be upset when yours dies.

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Pro-Choice in anyway means Anti-Life or Anti-Baby. I believe every woman should have the right to choose what is best for her. Should the woman choose she wants to have a baby, and than looses that baby she has every right to mourn that loss. The author of this article has very misinformed views of what it is to be pro-choice. I really suggest they look up and really read what roe v. wade is about.

- Katmaej

Posted 02/05/09 04:10 PM

- Katmaej

Posted 02/05/09 04:11 PM

You know you can be Pro-life for your self and pro-choice in politics, because why do you hav eto right to control someone elses body.

- Miss Anarchy

Posted 02/05/09 04:14 PM

Seriously?! Some please explain to me how a miscarriage on a wanted child and the abortion of an unwanted one are the same? You must be some heartless asshat to say something like that.

- Allison

Posted 02/05/09 04:18 PM

hey I am all for using pro-life wording: here goes…I will murder anyone who is in my body when I don’t want them there. Because it is MY BODY…and I choose when I want someone in it. I will also mourn the death of any wanted person that was in my body…Because I am human and have EMOTIONS. Clear enough for you? God may hate me for killing the babies and supporting others for killing the babies…but I still love Him.

- Mo

Posted 02/05/09 04:21 PM

I… really? What is wrong with you?

- Anonymous

Posted 02/05/09 04:30 PM

*laughs* laughter should be the only thing following this ridiculous, anti-life and anti-compassion post. i sure as hell hope you are a more understanding parent to your own children. you are not a critical thinker, are you Gina? pro-choice simply means you believe a female has the right over her own body. You can be pro-choice and still anti-abortion for yourself. you can be pro-choice and still believe in the sanctity of life. When a woman wants to bring her pregnancy to term, everyone should be supporting her and that child. When someone is greiving or mourning, WHY WOULD YOU JUDGE? How heartless could you possibly be? Disgusting lack of heart - and anyone who agrees with this post shouldn’t have children - all you will do is breed hate and judgement into the world through your trophy children.

- Amanda

Posted 02/05/09 04:34 PM

Pro-Choice: is the the support of the individual to make decisions about their own bodies. - IT IS NOT pro-abortion. Understand that before writing crap like this!

- tanya

Posted 02/05/09 04:42 PM

This woman is suffering a serious lack of logic, with alarmingly high levels of mind-numbing stupidity. I can only hope she never reproduces.

- WTFWTFWTF

Posted 02/05/09 04:42 PM

Being pro-choice does not mean that a person has had an abortion or wants others to have abortions. Being pro-choice is about respecting people’s right to make their own decisions regarding their bodies and families no matter your own personal beliefs may be. This is your opinion and you are entitled to it. However, in this article you have made a very poor argument and it only serves to make your stance on this issue appear to come from a very uneducated place. You chastize the pro-choicers for their narrow-minded judgmental beliefs about pro-lifers then go on to be judgmental and narrow-minded towards them. The comparrison to selective vegetarianism is irrelevant. Your article is not a well thought out stance on the issue but rather an emotional rant plain and simple.

- Kim

Posted 02/05/09 04:57 PM

And because you sit down sometimes, don’t come crying to me if you lose your ability to walk.

- Amanda Marcotte

Posted 02/05/09 04:58 PM

So because I respect a woman’s right to choose what to do with her own body, and believe a fetus is a pile of cells until it’s viable on it’s own, I’m not allowed to mourn the possibility of what those cells might have become (not what they are, but what was possible)? Your logic fails.

- Danelle

Posted 02/05/09 05:11 PM

this “article” is an abomination to thinking and feeling women (and men) everywhere. it is an insult to my intelligence to have wasted 30 seconds even reading it. you ought to be ashamed of posting this ignorance.

- luna

Posted 02/05/09 05:16 PM

this is the most ridiculously stupid article and not worthy.

- Ciana

Posted 02/05/09 05:23 PM

FAIL. I would respect a guest column by someone who was against abortion and made the miscarriage/abortion analogy that made sense, even though I disagree. This does nothing to further the conversation along in any fashion.

- not coming back

Posted 02/05/09 05:26 PM

How’s the weather up there on top of your high horse? It’s posts like this that make me avoid most parenting websites and bulletin boards, and most other mothers in general. You won’t find many more sanctimonious, narrow-minded, judgmental groups than them. What does it take to make people like you understand that it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what another woman does with her body? Why is that so hard to understand? No one has to explain themselves or apologize when they decide to end a pregnancy. Who do you think you are to tell someone that they “don’t have the right” to mourn a miscarriage if they’re pro-choice? I mean, seriously, who the hell do you think you are?

- Gena

Posted 02/05/09 05:32 PM

This is probably one of the worst things I have ever read. So people like me, who defend the right to have an abortion, are not allowed to be upset if we have a miscarriage? These are two completely separate issues. One is a choice. The other is not. Giving someone the right to have an abortion does not mean you force it upon them and say, “Oh hey, about that pregnancy…” and it comes as a shock to the woman Miscarriages, however, do come as a shock. And someone who would not be upset, abortion views aside, would be inhuman This is just ridiculous

- Jessica

Posted 02/05/09 05:36 PM

That is absolutely terrible. How dare you tell people how to feel? When did “mom logic” become not logical at all? I would not wish a miscarriage on my worst enemy. The pain, both physical and emotional, that a woman and everyone around her goes through is not something to point and laugh at. You know the big difference between a miscarriage and an abortion? Choice. I didn’t have the CHOICE to lose my child. I am pro-CHOICE. Kindly remove your head from your butt and try and live in someone else’s shoes.

- Kristen

Posted 02/05/09 05:36 PM

Grow up before you decide to post another article full of crap.

- Anonymous

Posted 02/05/09 06:06 PM

What’s funny is…the baby has it’s own body too. The baby is not property of the woman. What’s that our government was founded on? Oh yeah: LIFE, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. I have a right to my opinion that most abortions could be stopped if more women made the CHOICE to not have sex KNOWING sex causes PREGNANCY!!! Abortion as birth control is wrong. If you aren’t ready to be a mom, make damn sure you don’t get pregnant. I think the writer made a good argument. I don’t know why everyone is getting worked up over an opinion. I read blogs written by pro-choice people and I don’t let their opinions make me so angry that I storm away from their blog. That is so childish. Get a life people! Pro-choice or pro-life, we at least need to recognize that abortion just outs money in Planned PArenthood’s bank account and it’s at the expense of words like, FREEDOM and CHOICE. Let us pro-lifers have an opinion too.

- Missy

Posted 02/05/09 06:17 PM