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Chris Brown May Have Beat Rihanna For Months

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Sources say they aren't surprised by the R and B singer's alleged attack on his girlfriend.

Chris Brown, Rihanna

If Chris Brown did hit Rihanna last week, it might not have been the first time.

According to, Rihanna told cops that Brown had a history of abusing her before the recent attack that went public and reportedly left her bruised and bloodied.

Us Weekly magazine also quoted unnamed sources close to Rihanna who say this isn't the first time Brown's beaten her.

Here are some recent rumors circulating the Internet:

According to the British paper the Daily Mirror, Brown, 19, was flirting with British singer Leona Lewis, and Rihanna, 20, became angry.

Brown was allegedly speaking to Lewis at a pre-Grammy party in Los Angeles before the late-night attack. And an anonymous source says while the interaction was innocent, it "set Rihanna off."

While other sources claim Rihanna got upset over a sexy text message Brown received.

Regardless what the blogs and magazines are reporting, one question remains: If Brown really did attack Rihanna in the past, why would she stay with him?

We went to marriage and family therapist Jane Greer, Ph.D. for answers.

"Just because someone is rich and famous, doesn't exempt them from being a victim of abuse," says Greer. "In fact, often times people who are very beautiful are more insecure which puts them at greater risk for domestic abuse."

Here's how it works. According to Greer, when someone is idealized and valued for their beauty, it can feel strange when a man takes an interest in who they are, as opposed to how they look. So with more invested in that person it's easier to fall head-over-heels in love.

The problem is, the more attached you are to the relationship, the harder it becomes to break away from it, even as the union declines. "What's more, when the person you love turns on you, your intense feelings may motivate you to try to regain their love---even as the abuse continues," adds Greer. "Love can feel like a drug and often people do anything they can to maintain their connection to the person."

"At that point, the relationship becomes simply about keeping the abuser happy to prevent the abuse," she says.

How does the fame factor tie in? "When famous people are in relationships, it can be harder to end them because their lives are scrutinized," says Greer (Makes sense--just consider Bill and Hillary Clinton). "If Brown did attack Rihanna in the past, it's possible she stayed with him for fear of the public finding out. After all, her career could be at stake."

"The scary part is, the abuser knows how to keep their victim in the relationship because they've figured out their weaknesses which they play like a harp," says Greer. "It explains why so many women feel powerless to leave."

Tell us - if Brown did repeatedly beat Rihanna, are you surprised she would stay with him?

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23 comments so far | Post a comment now
Anonymous February 13, 2009, 9:22 PM

Chris Brown what happend I really liked you but now that you beat up your girlfriend more then 1 I… I just didnt beleve but WOW I CANT BELEVE YOU Chris you mest up badly I cant beleve you

Bec Thomas February 13, 2009, 10:18 PM

I’m not surprised she stayed, I’ve seen it happen to many times before. This case just gets more air time but it plays out in households all over the world. It’s a trap designed to prevent you from seeing a way out. It often isn’t just based on Physical abuse, a lot of mental abuse is often involved. Mental abuse is harder to break out of and takes longer to heal. No one ever really plans to get traped in the pattern but it happens to all sorts of people in all cultures and social classes.

indya February 13, 2009, 11:02 PM

chris brown you made a big mistake and hit the worng girl but you are still cute and i hope rihanna and her family forgives you and may god bless you and rihanna

maddy February 13, 2009, 11:59 PM

i just cant believe what u did u used 2 b my fav singer u were the bomb but all i see u know as is a woman obuser. Do u know what that is going 2 do to ur rep ur only 19 and a roll model 2 millions of kids who look up to u and look what u did sto them u reall let me down

BB February 14, 2009, 3:26 AM

People, fa real. Stop judging them. Who are you to judge? Nobody is perfect. Just because their famous some people treat them like they shouldn’t make mistakes. No one knows the real truth behind it. It was their personal relationship. You can call him an abuser, and her weak for staying with him. But these are rumors. Nobody likes to be judged so why do you continue to do so on others. If your really concerned about them so much, just pray for them. It will pass, everyone has a rocky moment. May god bless them and give them the strength to overcome this.

lola February 14, 2009, 10:21 AM

chris how could u u use 2 b in my fav now ur in the 1ns i regret and dislyk i cant believe it but now ur carrer might b over who would higher an abuser and i hope rihanna will leave u also WAT WENT IN UR MIND well it aint my fault hopefully she iz still alive and i always thought she wuz a better singer anyway

Anonymous February 14, 2009, 11:06 AM

yes i think it is logical for her to stay with him. her career is very important to her of course so in order to save it from risk it is logical for her to hide her abuse.

alexandria palmer February 14, 2009, 1:04 PM

i not mad at chris brown or rihana but how could u hit rihnana but ur still on my topppppppppppppppppppppppp singer ur # 1 fan and wil still b

cassandra February 14, 2009, 7:35 PM

I can’t neven like at you chris brown.Why would you do that.

anonymous February 14, 2009, 8:51 PM

i like u both as singers but chirs why. as much as i want 2 say what i feel i wont judge. dont judge them he did something it was his choose. rihnana did what she thught was right. just dont make them feel worse then they r already just prey for them and just wate and see what happen and chirs u might have let some other kids down BUT i am on both of your sids but i do agery that what u did waz a little wrong 2 me

Elizabeth February 15, 2009, 12:29 AM

I believe that she was in love, to scared to leave a soal mate. Believed he could do better, believe that he’ll stop. As in the outcome, she was schoked of what had been, and what could of been, is if she left

lawrebce February 15, 2009, 5:11 AM

Rihanna is really a nice girl! I enjoy her voice! It is said she is at a beautiful models site where more bikini photos of her can be found.

leslie February 15, 2009, 9:12 AM

hay chris brown was supposed to be my husband but..he hit rihanna

john February 15, 2009, 11:16 AM

I don’t feel any man should ever dare to put his hand up to a woman.A woman is the reason a man is here in the first place.How can you hurt the giver of life?Think of a world without a woman.A womans’ love is priceless.But the worst thing in the world is a woman scorned.Hold ya heads up women stay strong.Criss shame on you.

john February 15, 2009, 11:17 AM

I don’t feel any man should ever dare to put his hand up to a woman.A woman is the reason a man is here in the first place.How can you hurt the giver of life?Think of a world without a woman.A womans’ love is priceless.But the worst thing in the world is a woman scorned.Hold ya heads up women stay strong.Criss shame on you.

aggie February 15, 2009, 5:07 PM

why did you do that 2 her

danielle February 15, 2009, 5:46 PM

wow chris i thought you were cute and you had an awsome voice but you and rihanna were perfect 4 eachother thats mest up u did that 2 her!! you messed your whole carrier ^ 2 !!!! well i was ur biggest fan but not any more!!!!
if you ever see rihanna again you need to say sorry to that poor women!!! man you should never and i meen never put your hands on a woman!!!
and if i were rihannas friend in real life you would of never touched her!!!

loops February 17, 2009, 1:21 AM

rihanna was ugly as hell any ways,
maybe she looks better now

TJ February 18, 2009, 4:32 PM

This story has gotten out of hand. If she was beaten before, why didn’t she tell then like she told this time? She is in the public eye constantly. Someone would have seen bruises on her before this. I do not believe this story. Although I do believe there was some abuse the night of the party.

Tiffany February 24, 2009, 11:23 PM

I think this whole situation is horrible, but I also wish that the media would just let these KIDS work it out. I do not agree with any man hitting a woman or vice versa…but gee whiz this could very well be happening to a friend of ours and their names are not being dragged out like this…for goodness sakes please LEAVE THE STORY ALONG!!

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