Here's the latest installment of the Friendship Court
Laurie from Omaha writes: I told Amy, my best friend of twenty years, that I had something very serious to tell her but I could only tell her if she swore she would not share it with anyone.
She of course, swore she would never and then went on and on telling me how in all the years we'd been friends, she had never betrayed my confidence. So, I confessed that I was cheating on my husband and having an affair. I am so not "the cheating type" and I was freaking out and needed to talk and get Amy's input about how I was going to break it off. Amy asked a lot of questions and I shared a lot of details. Well, you can guess the reason I am writing to "The Friendship Court." Amy told her husband Jack and Jack felt a "manly obligation" to tell his "fellow man" (my husband) everything I told Amy. I want to kill her!!! My marriage, I pray, may recover, but my friendship ... I don't think so! What do you think?
Guest blogger Leslie Adler: Laurie, I hope you aren't serious about killing her ... because then you will end up in a whole different kind of court -- and that will not be good. However, I feel your pain and your anger.
In my court, there is no defense for Amy's behavior. "hos before bros" and "chicks before d@#%*" are among my friendship mantras! Even if she was morally opposed to what you were doing, she should not have shared your secret. I would send Amy packing and put her in friendship jail where she belongs and my advice for you: work on patching up your marriage, if that is what you want and then, find a new BFF.
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|Leslie Adler mother, lawyer and creator of the Vuv Club shares her witty thoughts on the many roles women play in their everyday lives. Leslie also combines her legal skills and friendship experience as presiding judge of Momlogic's "The Friendship Court."|