Guest blogger Ronda Kaysen: The recession is coming home as more families find themselves moving in with relatives to survive the economic downturn. Adult children are moving home with mom and dad when they lose their homes, and countless families are moving their aging parents into their house rather than pay for assisted living care. Even divorce rates are falling as couples opt to continue living together rather than than try to sell their devalued home.
"Times are rough," Kanessa Tixe, a 26-year-old publicist told USA Today. When her dad lost his job and couldn't pay the mortgage on his house in Queens, NY, she and her stepbrother moved into the top floor. Her stepsister and her husband moved into the second floor and her dad took the ground floor. "It's been very beneficial that we're all together. My stepbrother and I have a wonderful relationship now. We eat together for dinner, and I've become closer to my dad, too. This is an important time for family to help, the way the housing market is going. Our story is a testament to how families should come together to help with a mortgage."
There are upsides to these new living arrangements: young children get to live with grandparents who help take the pressure off of a struggling couple. They help out with childcare or just make life a little more manageable. Families who might otherwise have nowhere to go feel loved and supported by a willing relative.
But moving in with Mom and Dad when you're married with kids is not always smooth sailing. Resentments brew over how money is spent and how much people contribute to the household. The situation can be "demoralizing, humbling, dehumanizing -- but a lot of people don't have a lot of choice," Nicholas Aretakis, a career coach and author of No More Ramen: The 20-Something's Real World Survival Guide, told USA Today.
Moms, weigh in: Has your family grown during the recession? How have you been coping?
|Ronda Kaysen is a freelance writer. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Washington Post, BusinessWeek.com, Architectural Record, Huffington Post, New York Observer and AM New York. She lives in Brooklyn with her family.|