Twins are reportedly the latest must-have accessory in NY, and more and more women are going through IVF to up their chances of having multiples. Is this okay?
Moms, what do you think about this?
Twin rates in the U.S. have rocketed 70% since 1980. According to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology, 47% of patients under 35 who had IVF at the NYU School of Medicine in 2006 were successful, and of those pregnancies, 33% resulted in twins.
But they say the multiples explosion isn't just a result of an uptick of in vitro fertilization -- it's also a symptom of New York do-it-all power mommies looking to multitask and keep up with the Joneses (or, at least, Brangelina).
Here are the reasons they say twins are so trendy at the moment:
• You only have to lose the baby weight once.
You don't have to go through another yo-yo weight gain and loss when you can meet your desired family quota with just one pregnancy. "I have my body back," says a Gramercy Park mom with 3-year-old twin girls (who asked to remain anonymous to protect her family's privacy). "And while my friends are bracing themselves for baby number two and all the sleep deprivation and chaos that comes with it, we are planning a family trip to Hawaii."
• Multiples are a status symbol.
Just look at Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Lopez, and Marcia Cross. "There is an inordinate number of moms in Manhattan who view their children as an accessory and I can see how maybe having two at once might seem more indulgent to them," says Brinton Taylor Parson of IvyWise Kids, an organization that preps children for school admissions. "There are some people who believe children are to be had like other materials you acquire, like a house or a husband."
• Twins prove you're wealthy.
At a time when every market, from real estate to stocks, is plummeting, growing a larger family (especially through IVF, which can cost upwards of $25,000) is a conspicuous sign of wealth: a need for a classic eight instead of a classic six, two baby nurses, double the tuition at Dalton, twice as many Bonpoint dresses to buy.
• Twins are "two for the price of one."
Jennifer Gilbert, 40, founder of event company Save the Date, admits she did IVF hoping for twins. "I wanted three kids," says the Tribeca mom, whose daughter Blaise, 4, was conceived via IVF. "My husband wanted two. So when we used IVF to try for a second child, I was thrilled when I found out we were pregnant with twins. It's two for the price of one."
• You get lots of attention.
"For people who like attention, twins are great," says Risa. "If I am ever depressed, I put my boys in the stroller and take a walk down the street and people just go nuts."
• You can make money off twins if they're identical.
The fact that Risa's twins are identical has been lucrative: Her sons were recently cast on the soap opera Guiding Light. "Because of the labor laws, children can only work a certain number of hours, so identical twins are in such high demand," she says.
• You're invited into the twins moms club.
Risa adds that the social capital is great, too--she's been accepted into an "exclusive society of twin moms who only want to hang out with other twin moms. It can feel elitist. But they get it in a way that someone with one kid will never understand."
What do you think about this new "trend"?