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Octuplets: Don't Punish the Kids!

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All children deserve a good life, even those born to seemingly plastic surgery-addicted, single, unemployed mothers.


Momlogic's Andrea: As the story of the octuplets mom began to unfold, people went from curious to furious. How could she be so irresponsible, to have 14 children with no visible means of support? Why should we the taxpayers spend a dime to help her? Soon, outraged comments like this one flooded the Internet:

You bet I'm going to boycott ANY assistance for her. Look at what she's accomplished WITH assistance!

Nice. That'll show those tiny little babies, breathing though tubes in the hospital! You go, girl!

The sad truth is that those babies -- Josiah, McCai, Jeremiah, Nariyah, Jonah, Noah, Maliah and Isaiah -- are here now. And, in our civilized society, they must be cared for in one way or another.

I'm not saying we need to personally send money to Nadya Suleman -- but why on earth would you be pissed if someone else does?

If we turn our back on the octuplets because we find the actions of their mother reprehensible, should we also stop assisting the children born to drug addicts or alcoholics, too?

I'm not saying you shouldn't hate the mother of the octuplets. I too think that her having eight more children when she already had six she couldn't take care of is selfish and sick. It turns my stomach. But don't punish those little babies for their mother's stupidity. They didn't ask to be born. If someone wants to send them some money for formula or diapers, so be it.

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ashley February 14, 2009, 8:06 AM

Here’s a suggestion: How about sending her the actual diapers and formula insteaad of money for them. That way you know you helped the babies.

Jenny February 14, 2009, 10:09 AM

Very good suggestion Ashley, although I wouldn’t send formula unless they say what kind to send as they may have allergies or intolerances.

krystal February 14, 2009, 11:40 AM

i think she is very selfish & is only thinking of her! ofcorse those babies need to be loved & taken care of but, i think that the right people should take care of them, people that have the means to raise a child… like me for example i can’t have children & for sumone to be so irresponable & careless is ungodly! so i say yes give those babies a chance but in order to do that they should be taken & given better homes, she has no job & lives off the state…& she says she will surport herself & the kids on student loans?! what a work of art!

Wendy February 14, 2009, 11:47 AM

It’s actually funny that you liken Ms. Suleman unto an alcholoic or a drug addict because, much like an addict, any money given directly to this pig will likely not be spend on the “8 tiny babies;” it will be spent on getting more plastic surgery or putting more pups in her already played out oven. Those children do need assistance, but it should be given in the form of physical items (diapers, formula, etc.), so that this wack-job can’t misappropriate them.

Dennis February 14, 2009, 12:05 PM

What about the irresponsible actions of the doctor who already knew that she had six children and was a single parent, and helped create this atrocity. She didn’t do this by herself, his judgment needs to be called into question also. As for her, an agent, a website does she expect to capitalize on this with the help of the public. Help should be limited to no cash assistance just goods and services and an offer to tie her tubes.

Anonymous February 14, 2009, 12:26 PM

help the babies they cant help who there mother is and also no one talks about all of the other women that have more then one baby. jon and kate with 8. no everyone wants to help so why not do the same.

Jo Buchanan February 14, 2009, 12:45 PM

I agree that the babies and their siblings need to be punished for their mothers actions. But I have to ask this
Is she capable of raising her babies and children and making sacrifices needed for their best interest? Or is she selfish and is just gloating over the noriety she has gained for having 8? As it is now she is physically not able to provide a home large enough for them. Why not give the babies to those who want a child but cannot have one instead of rewarding her for being absolutly irresponsible? I agree that any form of help she recieves needs to be tangibles not money because those little ones won’t see a dime of it nor will the others. And I think she should be court ordered to have her tubes tied by the same doctor that did the fertility treatments on her.

Felicia February 14, 2009, 1:29 PM

What this Mother of 14 needs more than anything is a psychiatrist/therapist to thoroughly evaluate her deep rooted psychological disorders and help her to step out of her dillusional mindset.The results of her evaluation combined with what progress she makes with the therapist guidance over the next several months,should be part of the determination of whether she is truly capable of raising even “one” child in her home.Plus, she needs qualified social workers to come into her home everyday and teach her how to properly Mother,nurture and raise these children.Simple things like creating healthy routines-like bedtime,mealtime,playtime,bathtime,one-on-one time,cleanup time,etc.Replace chaos with routine.If she doesn’t accept ALL of the above,then she should lose the priviledge of raising these precious and innocent children.

MarMar February 14, 2009, 1:42 PM

I agree with this post wholeheartedly…now if only there were a way to do so, to send diapers, clothing items, etc. to the kids.

Dani February 14, 2009, 2:13 PM

Someone in there right mind and realy had love for there kids would not put herself in that kind of danger she cuold of died and the babys also could of died and she would of left her other 6 kids she has with no mom only because she wannted all of her babys I think she just wannted the fame.Well look where it got her just what she wannted people talkin about her i hope shes happy she needs to take a look at her babys and thank god that they lived.that womam is sick.

JC February 14, 2009, 2:33 PM

medical innovation is a very dangerous road of unintended consequences that eventually will be another balloon that pops. America would be bankrupt (more than it already is) if there were a half million Nadya Sulemans, and even if legislated, these baby crazy women can go to other countries to get fertilized in this insane manner… not to mention a pipeline of new medical drugs/procedures that layer more and more spending on a sector whose growth is far outpacing GDP growth.

Chrissy February 14, 2009, 2:44 PM

She already had three of six kids with a disability. None of the eight babies borned weight even 4lbs - the smallest being 1 lb 3 ounces. Which menas she will have additional kids with disbalities. They best hting for these kids, unfortunately is to put up for adoptions. sorry, but face facts - she has no means of support. She has already ststed that her students loans have run out - so how will she afford to finish college? Even with her degree in college per Dr phi - she’ll only make maybe $40,000 for 15 people - some with disabilities. formulae alone for the eight babies is $16,000 a year. Diaoers over $30,000. She is a single mom with no help - even her mom has walked out from stress of the first six kids and the father’s leaving for Iraq.
She doesn’t have have adequate housing.
ANd there literally isn’t even hours in a care for her to care for all 14 kids. Add in children with disabilities who will require a lot of one on one time. It is just simplely, not physically, humanly possible for her to do and give to each of her child what each of them deserve and need.
Giving this mother diapers and formula really isn’t going to improve the situtation to the degree that these kids need. There plenty of with two or three kids with one have autism to feel guilty because they know that they don’t give their healthy children the proper time and attention because of the time and attention and theraphy the autistic child needs.
So here’a the a single, unemployed mom with 14 kids and multiple children with disabilities.
There is no happy ending for these kids as the situation is. Even if only 2 of the eight babies have diabilities. They likelihood is that there will be more giving hte low birth weight and premature birht. (The intestineweren’t even developed).
I know as mothers its horrifing to think of chldren to be taken away from their parents but its the best solution for all. I’m not advocating removing all the children nor a situaiton with the mother is denied any acess to her children = but maybe an open foster care or open adoption situtation?

Karen February 14, 2009, 3:40 PM

NOT providing financial support towards the care of these infants IS the only way to truly help them. Without the benefit of private donations, the octomom won’t have the resources she needs to properly provide for her children. The state will then HAVE to consider the option of terminating her parental rights and place the babies with individual foster/adoptive families who CAN raise them properly. Call it tough love if you want to, but sometimes the best help is no help. There is a fine line between being supportive and being an enabler. Anyone who contributes to the mess that is this woman’s life is enabling her to continue being a mess!

Mike February 14, 2009, 4:07 PM

I agree Karen, for me that is the whole idea of not supporting her, to force her to give up the babies for adoption, which is definitely the best outcome for the babies.

Karen February 14, 2009, 4:41 PM

Thanks Mike. I’m sure that’s the same sentiment shared by all those who have spoken out in non favor of private financial support. Frankly, I’m suprised the author didn’t consider that reasoning before writing this article.

Anonymous February 14, 2009, 6:20 PM

She is not killer, or a drug user or a bad person. Adoption is not the best answer. no one loves a baby like its mother. the footage of her with her childrens shows a loving mom. none of us know her. none of us know how much love she might have for her children. i wish everyone would stop bashing her and accept the fact that the babies are here. they are sweet and innocent and should NOT be taken away from their mom. maybe there should be a house built for the family on one of those ridiculous shows. maybe people will volunteer their time to help her manage their care. maybe that what everyone can focus on instead of analyizing her mental state.

huh?? February 14, 2009, 6:51 PM

really Karen?? the answer is to NOT help and simply wait until the the environment of the children / babies is SO horrible that the children will be removed from octomoms care?

Again— punishing the children so THEN they can get proper care???

huh??2 February 14, 2009, 6:55 PM

Hey on second thought Karen why don’t we storm the ocotomom’s house WACO style? That seemed to work.

Joey February 14, 2009, 7:33 PM

“Anonymous” you have the nerve to say “maybe there should be a house built for the family on one of those ridiculous shows. maybe people will volunteer their time to help her manage their care.”

Well, heck…maybe I’ll have 14 kids & get a free house & free help too! While we’re at it…why don’t all of us have 14 or 15 (or more!) kids so that we can get free help to look after them…that’s much easier than being realistic & having one or two and having a JOB and looking after them yourself!

Anonymous February 14, 2009, 8:07 PM

Anon - it is a fairy tale fallacy that a mother’s love is best for children. There are unfit mothers who do not have their children’s best interest at heart. Nevermind what she says - her actions are enough proof of her inadequecy AND as a Ca taxpayer - I’m pissed at yet more evidence of mismanagement of tax money.

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