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Why Do We Love "The Bachelor"?

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Rachel Sarah: Why is "The Bachelor's" Jason Mesnick the single dad everyone adores?

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Let's be real: is this guy serious?

If 32-year-old Jason -- the first-ever single dad Bachelor -- had really wanted to find true love, why wouldn't he have followed up with one of the hundreds of women who'd contacted after he came in second place on "The Bachelorette"?

ABC was so flooded with Jason requests that the network gave him his own email account.

Do you think that Jason is really in it for love?

Relationships in the real world don't develop like this. Can you really find true love in just a few weeks?

But dating in real life is not as fun as dating on reality TV, right?

Come to think of it, if given the chance, I'm not sure I'd pass up a few weeks in a fancy mansion, gourmet dinners, cocktails, helicopter rides ... and a trip to New Zealand.

ABC is certainly loving this sweet, mild-mannered single dad "Bachelor" for boosting its rating. The show now averages 10.4 million viewers.

I'm a bit embarrassed to admit that I'm among them.

After all, Jason isn't exactly a model of being monogamous single parent. He's kissing women any chance he can get -- and sleeping with a few of them. (The camera cuts before we see anything R-rated.)

Am I the only one who wonders if Jason is really looking for a life partner and stepmom to three-year-old Ty ... Or, a young, sweet hottie?

He has already booted off all four single mom contestants. It's now narrowed down to 24-year-old Molly and 25-year-old Melissa.

"You are the two people I definitely want here," Jason proclaimed on Monday night. "One of you, I'm definitely going to spend the rest of my life with. I cannot wait to introduce you to Ty and to my family."

And it's not as if these women have proven to be emotionally mature -- or ready for step-parenting. Quite the contrary: if you've watched the show, at least every 10 minutes, another woman breaks down crying, professing her love to Jason.

"I think the show depicts women as foolish, pathetic, and waiting to be rescued," says Leslie Miller, LICSW, a psychotherapist in the Boston area.

"The Bachelor is calling all the shots and the women cry," adds Miller. "The humiliation factor in which women compete against each other is definitely negative."

The two-hour finale of "The Bachelor," along with a reunion show, will air on March 2 from 8-11 PM.

And the network has now ordered a one-hour special to air the day after the finale.

"It's going to be shocking," according to creator Mike Fleiss. "The end of this series is the best we've ever had."

Will you be watching?

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6 comments so far | Post a comment now
Anonymous February 23, 2009, 2:51 PM

OF COURSE!!! tbis is my guilty pleasure!!! my husband is so sweet to go along with it and watch it with me. but yes, i am guilky to be one of the 10 million too!

Barb February 23, 2009, 3:56 PM

Yes, I’m addicted. Have you heard the crazy twist? Who knows if it’s true (we’ll find out in a few weeks), but if you want the ending ruined, read about the “shocker” on

Joanne February 23, 2009, 10:15 PM

I LOVE this show. It is my favorite guilty pleasure. I DO think it is possible to make quick connections with someone- I met my husband online. We chatted/talked on the phone for a few weeks before meeting, were a “couple” by our third date and I moved in with him after 6 months. We have been ridiculously happy in love for almost 6 years. I definitely would never knock a strange way of going about meeting your true love.

Rachel February 24, 2009, 1:53 PM

OF COURSE! I am addicted to this show. and honestly did not think of it as “negative” towards the women. I suppose someone could fall in love in just a few weeks..Who are we to judge that!?

Count me in as 1 out of 10 Million viewers, because I AM watching it baby! :o)

JenReg February 24, 2009, 2:19 PM

They always say it’s going to be shocking…I can’t imagine this to be any more shocking than Brad turning down Deanna.

I hate to admit that I watch this show too (every single season since it started!).

I don’t know quite what to think of Jason…he seems nice, but was more charming on the Bachelorette. We’ll just have to wait and see I guess. In the meantime, I might have to sneak over the the link above and see what’s going on LOL

ame i. February 24, 2009, 6:08 PM

I don’t understand why you love the Bachelor. I don’t enjoy watching any so-called reality shows. Ilive in reality, which is probably why I don’t like reality shows.

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