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We asked our momlogic community to share their thoughts and experiences and tell us if they would let their man look "down there" during their labor and delivery. Here's what some of our Pregnancy Group members had to say:
Koryn: Absolutely, he helped start the project! Ha ha ha. But he said no. I'm forcing him to be in the hospital as it is. My family will be the enforcers.
Royal: It's honestly his choice. I know during the first two he decided against it, he did when our first daughter was born and regretted that decision. The last time i don't know if he looked or not. I was so out of it, I wasn't paying attention. This time, who knows!
Rashmi: I have no problems with it. But knowing my queasy husband, he won't!
Ivy Peplinski: Unfortunately, my husband didn't have a choice. With our first son, my husband had to be right in on the action to help me push. While doing so, he had a bird's eye view that he tries to erase from his mind but has not been able to.
Heather: After having four kids, I'm pretty used to having all kinds of people "down there," but even though my husband is welcome to watch, he is not interested at all. I don't blame him!
Did your man look "down there"?
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Maybe these men who won’t look should grow a pair…
Childbirth is a beautiful- messy, but wonderful. Did they think the stork brought the babies?
I never thought it would scar him but my husband and I made a deal that he wasn’t allowed to look. Well apparently you should tell the doctors too because as soon as Twin A was crowning the doctors pulling over saying “Look the baby is coming get over here!” Hahahaha. So he watched both babies be born and sat right by my side for my c-section for our youngest. He says it was messy but it didn’t traumatize him at all.
Not to sound horrible,but men look down there while making the baby,why not look and see what you’ve created.A woman’s body is beautiful and amazing.My husband watched as both of my children were born and was so happy that I had given him such a great gift.If watching you give birth changes the way he feels about you then maybe he should hit the road.
My first delivery was like mollysmom’s. My late-husband caught a glimpse at my uterus as they were sewing it up. He said “I’m glad we don’t have to take THAT home, it looks like a pork roast!” The sound he made as they plopped my uterus back into me was even more funny than when he saw the aftermath of my girl-parts after my VBAC delivery when he screeched “It looks like somebody dropped a plate of lasagna on your lap!” I’m not sure what to think that he compared both incidences to food….
My husband was holding my left leg as I pushed, so he didn’t really have a choice. He said it wasn’t that bad…until he saw the placenta. In which case we were both kind of grossed out. It’s caused no long term damage to his psyche.
We have four kids and my husband said seeing them being born was an incredible experience. He did not think there was anything wrong with watching them come out at all. How do these men think they are coming out? I think what you imagine is probably worse than the real thing.
I don’t know that it’s even something my husband and I discussed. He was in the delivery room and for some odd reason thought that watching our baby girl be born was the coolest thing ever. He was so amazed and proud of me that I never even thought about whether it grossed him out. Plus I was too busy listening to him give everyone the play-by-play afterwards. It’s so not a sexual organ during child birth, so I don’t see why it would scar a man unless he is squeamish by nature. The only rule we ever had was I didn’t want to know if I well..you know…poo’d. TMI!
We had a mirror placed so that we could both watch. It was amazingly beautiful to watch our daughters being born. My mom, mom in-law and older sister saw as well. The birth was treated as a wonderful blessing that I was glad to share in. My hubby cried with both and found the placenta fascinating. He said it was the most amazing moment of his life and he was glad that I let him watch.
There is a reason why birth is called a miracle and I feel that letting him watch made him more involved as a father instead of just shooing him to the sidelines.
I saw a birth once and I’m scarred. Aside from the actual baby, there was nothing beautiful about it. Bodily fluids of all kinds, pain, shrieking…..it was grotesque. I’m not saying that the natural passing of a child to the outside world by a natural method is a bad thing, but don’t try to fool people into thinking it’s beautiful. Because it’s not.
I could not even have him in the bathroom with me before I got prego but after the baby and yes he did watch the whole thing and it did not bother him one bit, there he was standing behind the midwife as our precious daughter came out of me then he cut the cord.
Oh please, by the time that baby is coming out you could care less if your hoohaa was shown on every channel on tv.
My husband is a former paramedic who has delivered about 6 babies. So when I got pregnant I was not worried about the delivery room. I ended up having to wait for 30 minutes for my Dr. to show up while I was 10 cm. Since I kept feeling pressure and the nurses weren’t too concerned, I kept having my husband check to make sure my son wasn’t delivering himself.
My husband was right there in the delivery room for mine. He never flinched or looked away the entire time and I had c-sections. He thought the boys were the most beautiful things he has ever seen. The beauty of the miracle of life clouded the messy sight there. He was strong for me in the delivery room and it made me very proud.
My husaband held one of my legs while I pushed. I noticed him glance down a few time, but I don’t think he got a ‘whole view’ of the action down there. lol. If he had, I’m sure someone would have had to pick him up off the floor.
I had 2 C-sections and am scheduled for my 3rd. I had to make sure my mom came in the room too because my husband was more interested in watching the doctor then tending to me. He loved watching and loves decribing it to me.
My ex-husband got very sick after he peeked during our son’s delivery via c-section. It took a long time for him to get over that. I will not be allowing Jay to see or peek during my c-section later this year.
Despite my telling him not to, my DH looked, and then fainted when they did the episiotomy.
BTW- all of those people who say that they didn’t care who saw their goods in the midst of childbirth?
It was four and a half years ago, and I’m still ashamed. I wish I’d just had her by myself in a McDonald’s bathroom so there wouldn’t have been any “witnesses” LOL
I wasn’t allowed into the room for my 2nd child because of an emergency c-section (all turned out alright) but for my first I was right there and would never have traded that experience for the world. It was a regular birth, I was too excited and concerned for the well being of my son and wife.
Best Experience of my life!
i had to have an emergency c-section because the cord was wrapped around my dd neck and her heartbeat kept dipping so i wasn’t in this position (no pun intended) but during my c-section my husband looked around the curtain and basically saw my insides sitting on tables etc, i thought he was going to pass out. he hasn’t been the same since.