Have multiple kids? Then you'll relate to this!
When I announced I was pregnant the first time, everyone was overjoyed.
When I announced I was pregnant the fourth time, everyone thought I was insane.
The first time, when I craved pickles and ice cream, my husband ran to the store.
This time, when I ask for spicy hummus and pita, he tells me it will pass.
The first time, everyday was an exciting new adventure.
This time, I am counting down the days.
The first time, I could not wait to get the bump so I could wear the clothes.
This time, the bump could not wait for me. (I was showing at week two!)
The first time, being pregnant was my job.
This time, it is interfering with my many other jobs.
The first time, when I was tired, I took a nap.
This time, when I am tired, I still have to keep up with three other kids.
The first time, taking my yoga class for pregnant moms, I was now officially part of the club.
This time, spending time with 15 other hormonal woman sounds horrifying.
The first time, the pregnancy was a marvel.
This time, I am taking it for granted.
The first time, I saw the our son Emet, it was a miracle.
This time, god willing, when I see the baby, it will remind me that miracles are still possible.
 | Rabbi Sherre Z. Hirsch, mother of three, is only the 60th woman ordained in the Conservative movement. She currently serves as spiritual consultant for the world-renowned Canyon Ranch. Hirsch authored "We Plan, God Laughs: 10 Steps to Finding Your Divine Path When Life Is Not Turning Out Like You Wanted." She holds two master's degrees and received her BA from Northwestern. |
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congratulations! i still get excited by pregnancy. i had six myself with only one pregnancy that made me want to sleep 24/7. with the others i had abundant energy and nice calm sweet babies. the one who made me sick never slept was very needy and is now my best friend.
- dee
I can relate! I have 7 children, ages 6 to 26…The comments from people when I was pregnant with the 5th, 6th, and 7th were not only disrespectful and rude, but very hurtful sometimes. I will never understand the judgements from people—we have never asked anyone to pay, raise or otherwise do our parenting. We have 7 responsible, respectful, polite, well-behaved children—one in the Air Force, two in Bible college studying to be pastors, and 4 ranging from kindergarten to high school. My kids are sought after by older people because they know my kids will be happy to help them out and have been known to show up un-asked to do yard work and house work for elderly people. Why the negativity? My later pregnancies were appreciated more because we always thought “this might be the last” and our babies were cherished and doted on by all their siblings from the day they met them. They’re all close and stay in touch—what more could a mom ask? It’s hard for me to be humble when it comes to my kids—they’re awesome! If I could tell young marrieds anything, I would tell them not to cut off their fertility options without a few years of soul-searching (there’s good birth control out there!) The best thing we EVER did for our older kids is have their younger siblings!
- cyndi
Congrats! I only have two myself, and it’s enough for me, but I’m #2 of 7 and loved having little ones around. It makes me appreicate my siblings more and I have many happy momories and stories to share with my kids. I truely believe you and hubby will let you know when you’re done (God will put it in your hearts) don’t let anyone else tell you when to stop. Try to enjoy it when you can!
- leelee
Congratulations! I have had 8 pregnancies but, only 4 births, unfortunately. I LOVE my babies (10 and under) and wouldn’t change anything for the world. After two, it seems as though people make more off-handed comments such as “are you nuts to want to have more” “are you sure” “can’t you be happy with the two you have” and so on! It is so rude and selfish to try and squelch someone else’s feelings or excitement when a pregnancy happens. Kids are awesome! They are defintely a lot of work, but well worth it. And the only two people who can decide on what is best for their lives are the two living it-you and your partner:)
- Tracy
I had a fourth child after giving birth to twins. Some people made comments like “fertile myrtle”, or aren’t you done yet, but I didn’t care. I enjoyed each pregnancy and would do it again if my eggs weren’t dried up
- Steph
Congrats! I think people make comments no matter what you do. We have three boys and we still get people asking us why we haven’t tried for a girl. I usually try to answer with a simple, “We were done with three.” Then if people keep pushing I will tell them that I was told not to have anymore due to health issues. It annoys me that people are so rude sometimes!
- MelissalynnF
Soo true! When I found out I was having my 4 th baby, alot of people thought I was insane. My first baby everyday was new and exciting, buy my 4 th I just wanted it done. I miss it now.
- Danielle
So here’s my thing if I could comfortably afford to I’d probably not stop having kids until I couldnt anymore right now I have 2. My sister in law however is currently pregnant with #5 which I would have no problems with if they could afford to but they can’t afford the ones they already have. A few months after becoming preggo w #5 she quit her job told people it was because her docter advised her 2 do so(thought yeh right immediatly) a few months later she admitted it was to get on food stamps. I almost stroked out ok I have no problems w people who NEED to be on food stamps welfare ect but dont decide you want even one child let alone more and make my tax dollars pay for it when I have 2 children and me and my husband both work full time jobs opposite shifts so we dont have to pay for daycare and it SUCKS for us but we do what we need to do because we created our children and their our responcibilities.
- Shmushcaboubie
Hey Shmushcaboubie- could you ramble on a little more, please?? Especially considering the crap you wrote has nothing to do with this article… way to go!
- Nikki
With our first son, everyone congratulated us. With our second son everyone told us that’s great. When we found out we were pregnant with a girl everyone said that’s fantastic, finally a girl. With our fourth, a boy, everyone asked if we were crazy.
- Gwen
After reading this, I can’t wait to have kids!! I’m scared, but I know how much joy is going to come when I hold my baby for the first time.
- Melanie V
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