As soon as I told my bestie I was pregnant, she withdrew herself from me. And when I found out why, I wasn't sure I wanted to be her friend anyway.
Momlogic's Talitha: There are friends in my life that are closer than family, and though that is an amazingly deep connection, in some cases, it can be too much. When I announced to my best friend that I was pregnant, rather than being happy for me, she was more concerned about herself, and where she was in her life ... or better yet, where she wasn't. Rather than reveling in the moment with me, she whined about "when was it going to be her time to have babies," she was the "older one after all." I found this deeply disturbing . Though I understand the pressure one feels about marriage, pregnancy and age, I don't think it should take away from another person's happiness.
When she asked me not to talk about my pregnancy "as much as I did," I was done. She claimed that, because of her age, it was very upsetting for her to hear about the pregnancy, and "did I know just how much I talked about it?" Let's rewind: She got mad at me for talking about the single most important thing that's ever happened to me, because of her own feelings of inadequacy. Umm. No.
I understand that it must be hard when a close friend gets something you really want, or when a younger sister gets married before the older one. I understand what it's like to be single and alone, wondering when your time is going to come. But never would I make my friends edit themselves because of my own issues. I may come home and cry about it, and maybe I'd even cry to them about it, but I wouldn't ask them not to express their joy.
Truth is, it's my time to be selfish, and I don't want to be surrounded by negative energy. I would normally try to work through it and edit myself, and be the compassionate one, but I'm not going to do it this time. I want to talk about my baby and my pregnancy and my hormones and my growing belly, and my delivery and everything else whenever I want to. And it looks like it will have to be without her.