Sarah from Burbank, California writes:

Lisa and I have known each other for years and have become increasingly close since we both got divorced about two years ago. We help each other out with our kids and we go out socially, pretty frequently to places where we think we can meet nice and eligible men. We have a favorite hangout on Thursday nights because the place caters to our age group and tends to attract a well dressed, employed (important in these times) group of men. For two weeks I had been "working it" with a handsome guy and I told Lisa I thought he was "hot and interesting." The next week, "my guy" approached Lisa and she dove in head first ... right in front of me!! She had no regard for my feelings. That night he took her number and they have been dating since. I think Lisa's a jerk. She says it was totally not her fault that he expressed interest in her. What do you think?

Leslie Adler: Sarah, I am sorry, but I do not think the "I saw him first" theory works in matters of the heart. There's either a love connection....or there ain't! "[Your] guy" wasn't really your guy yet and despite your two weeks of "working him" he went for Lisa. If you have been reading "The Friendship Court" you know I generally put "Ho's before bros' and chicks before _____" but that goes both ways here. If you put Lisa before "your guy" you can just give her some support and ride it out and see if this fling lasts for her. Hopefully she will do the same for you next time a hot guy picks you over her. Thanks for sharing with "The Friendship Court."

I saw him first or all is fair in love and war? What do you think?

Leslie Adler mother, lawyer and creator of the Vuv Club shares her witty thoughts on the many roles women play in their everyday lives. Leslie also combines her legal skills and friendship experience as presiding judge of Momlogic's "The Friendship Court."