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Karrine Steffans: Although for many moms it is ideal to be married, there is a growing number of single moms, whether by choice or by happenstance. As single women, to say nothing of single motherhood, there is much to be mindful of whether you're auditioning potential life mates or simply enjoying your single self.

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Emotionally, there is something that happens to a woman once she allows a man to bed her. The fact is, for women, sex is an internal process and though many of us try our damndest to pretend we are not affected by the ins and outs of men, by nature, we are. It is comparable to a man's prostate exam. There is no way a man is entered without feeling a bit violated. Women should allow themselves to feel the same.

Physically, a woman can become worn from the elements of casual sex. A single girl has the potential of sleeping with more than one man on more than one occasion. Not only does this greaten her chances of accidental pregnancy and disease, but also, to be put it gently, the potential for wear and tear. As a visual, imagine the anatomy of a female porn star. I think I've made my point.

Perpetually, the decisions you make as a single girl can severely alter the goals and plans you've been working toward. Never settle for less than what you ultimately desire in a mate, treat yourself and your body with the utmost respect and don't be afraid to be better than, a physical elitist even. For moms, don't forget you are your children's prime example and make a point to teach them well.

These topics and much more can be found in The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want, July 2009. Visit for more.

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Laughinggrl March 12, 2009, 7:27 PM

Superhead, “Imagine the anatomy of a female porn star.” You’re kidding, right? Your porn performance is entertaining at best. It doesn’t rise to the level where one wants to imagine you. Your pretend respectability is even more entertaining. I’ll give you this; you’re good for a laugh.

Suzzy March 12, 2009, 7:30 PM

Shouldn’t you be swallowing something instead of dispensing advice? Your two hour room at the no tell motel awaits. The clock is ticking. Open wide, take it all in and shut the f*ck up.

truuconfessions March 13, 2009, 12:36 PM

Oh, no, she di’ent!! Did she just say slutty girls have worn out, tore up vaginas, and then throw porn stars under the bus with us? I mean, correct me if I’m wrong, but is it possible that a married woman having sex with only her husband can have as much, if not more sex than a promiscuous single woman? Does that mean her vag is messed up too? Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t think sex in and of itself can physically alter our girly parts. In fact, I’m amazed at the resilience of my womanhood after the trauma of childbirth, not to mention the sexcapades that apparently should have made a porn star out of me.

Destiny K March 15, 2009, 12:55 AM

To come to your defense, Karrine, I agree with you that single moms should be an example for their children when it comes to their single life. On a side note I think you have every right to give your advice. Your past choices may not be to everyones approval, but who am I to judge. I am not God nor is anyone else. We have all made mistakes in our past, the only difference is you made yours public. So I commend you for you courage to try to redeem yourself and become a better woman. Keep doing what you are doing because people are going to always have something to say.

swash1 March 16, 2009, 10:41 AM

Another bomb article!!! I think you make great points and I will share this with the girls in my group! The haters just come to hate, read and re-read, you all might get a clue! Regardless who wrote it - it makes so much sense, and you can’t deny that!

FoolPatrol March 16, 2009, 1:16 PM

Purporting to give advice to women whose men you’d blow and screw in a nano second if they were receptive and the price were right is laughable. What example does jumping on has been child actor’s cars or spitting semon set for your son and your imaginary baby? Get Help Now!

Nikki March 17, 2009, 10:24 PM

Life is about making choices good or bad they are your choices. Karrine made choices and she owns up to those choices.What about some of you negative bloggers.You have all done something you regretted when your were young and you are probably doing some things you will regret later Now.All I need to say is passing judgement is wrong and you know it.She is trying to change and Change is a process involved with growing and maturing.Having said that the articles are advice you can take it or leave it.I am sure all of your comments are welcomed albeit rather judgemental for some.It is Your opinion and you are entitled to have one.I am glad that she is doing something more with herself.I enjoy the advice given.Ps She is still a woman and as a woman I think we should be more supporting of what she is trying to do.

Call-it-what-it-is March 18, 2009, 5:25 PM

I agree. Women should support women. The wives and girlfriends of the men that Superhead screws and blows to infamy are women too. Superhead recently asked yet another woman that one of her alleged suitors dumped her for and married how she (Superhead) tasted? What kind of trifling, low life, gutter, disrespectful, sh*t is that? The woman didn’t even turn the question around and ask Superhead how she tasted. She took the high road and ignored the sleazy jump off. You should too.

Katrice March 18, 2009, 8:25 PM

Karrine I think that you make a very good point you do need to have respect for yourself because if you don’t then noone else will. I think that you give very good advice and yea you have made some mistakes but who hasn’t. It only made you a stronger person and that’s what matters. So all of you who think badly of Karrine stop hating and find something else to do with your spare time cause as you can see it’s not hurting her. I support you 100% and im going to continue to keep doing what you doing and I know your not going to let anyone or anything stop you from doing it.

jill March 21, 2009, 12:56 AM

Really??? Superhead… oh sorry..Karrine, I totally believe in people redeeming themselves but you, my dear, are a farce, one minute you are proud of(or at least flaunting) your conquests and slutting around (often with attached men) and then the next minute you are pretending (I’ll admit, ALMOST convincingly) that you are past all of that, then you “backslide” again into the ways that come natural to you. You are self-delusional and you are only fooling a few gullible sad souls. But for you’re child’s (children) sake,I hope you can maintain this period of “righteous” longer than usual.(But you are starting to get bored, aren’t you???)

GOT IT TOGETHER March 21, 2009, 1:20 PM

Well the concept for this article is good. Although, I think the person who wrote it should had maybe edited a little more. For one how can she down rate any woman and she had been to the lowest point of being trash. If she really has made such a change she would gear her articles towards women who need to be guided because they are living the life she once lead. To show them you can change and your body is worth so much more. No instead she is showing that you can live the life she lived and come out make money on your story and top it off have a bunch of women live their life off every word she says. I mean she has followers of women who have never lived the life she lived and they take her as some kind of almight knowlege goddess on the subject of men. Women get it together although maybe the reason so many women follow her is because they want to live the dream life she has fooled them into loving and desiring. Sad get your mind and self-esteem right ladies.

Fed up with the negativity  March 26, 2009, 6:18 PM

We all know opinions are like a—holes and everyone has at least ONE. That premise proved true, we also have to keep in mind that FORGIVENESS is given to all generations. If you want to keep this young lady (We are about the same age) *Smile* in a box just because she was smart enough to make money discussing her past then you should not ever one day in your life get angry when you are judged and ridiculed for your past transgressions. “There is NONE righteous, NO NOT ONE” Romans 3:10. I do not completely agree with this particular article, but I’ve been reading some and each of your responses are so hateful and ignorant that I’ve grown weary and decided to respond. To all of this woman’s haters, when you get the good balls to overcome what she’s overcome, and when you get some Bruce Almighty God Like Powers step up and pass judgement..until then sit down and shut it up. Zip it! Pipe down and find another hobby. But most of all spend 15 minutes a day in a quite room doing nothing but GROWING THE HELL UP!!!! Peace and Blessings

Pat April 3, 2009, 3:01 PM

@Swash. “another bomb article?” What’s bomb about this nonsense? Superhead is not saying anything that people don’t already know …adding her own garbage in the process. Wanna see her porn vid. Go to twitter and read davis3000 posts. lol. He/she has posted the link to one of superheads pornos. Too funny. Superhead, you are disgusting!!! Your book will not sell!!!

Who is gonna buy a book about keeping a man from a woman who has no man. Nobody is buying those fake azz vids with you and Darius! He even refused to say that he loved you in the last one. *SMH*

-YesIdid April 10, 2009, 2:32 AM

Contrary to popular opinion, I like Karrine and feel that she is well suited to offer her views on subject matters like this one. Everyone has a past and the difference between your past and hers is her past was highly publicized and yours wasn’t news worthy. Besides, if you spent half the time blazing your own trails rather than offering your meaningless opinions about her life, you’d have your own blogs and books on the bestsellers list.

Soldieress April 15, 2009, 8:09 PM

Karrine, the world is watching you. I think you can use your writing skills in a better way than this. Would you want your child to follow in your footsteps? It’s never too late to change.

Ria April 18, 2009, 4:51 PM

Karrine is too dumb to change. Talking about sex and having sex is all she knows. I truly do not understand why momlogic allows her to write for them. They should see by the comments that most people here do not like karrine and doesn’t care about what she has to say.

Karrine is not adding anything of benefit to momlogic. She is only tarnishing the reputation of this site just like she does to every person that she lays her hands on.

Karrine is a pathetic excuse for a woman. Her 1st Twitter account was shut down because Twitter found that she was creating several profiles and having conversations with herself to make it seem like she has ppl who actually like her. She has a new twitter page and now she is twitting to imaginary ppl. Example. Look at her twitter page for replies to @bahmblyke where karrine goes on and on with this person about how ppl make mistakes, yada, yada. When u click on that screen name, you will get an error that says ‘page does not exist’. This woman is so sad. Bless her heart.

speakthetruth April 30, 2009, 12:27 PM

well spoken karrine. No matter what anybody say’s everyone has the right to change. you were so young when you did most of that stuff! ain’t no telling what half of these women who judge you did back in the day. Hell, are still doing now! Only god can judge us. What matters is that we learn from our mistakes and try to be the best we can be today.

Uakaltvs June 24, 2009, 6:22 PM

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