Karrine Steffans: Although for many moms it is ideal to be married, there is a growing number of single moms, whether by choice or by happenstance. As single women, to say nothing of single motherhood, there is much to be mindful of whether you're auditioning potential life mates or simply enjoying your single self.
Emotionally, there is something that happens to a woman once she allows a man to bed her. The fact is, for women, sex is an internal process and though many of us try our damndest to pretend we are not affected by the ins and outs of men, by nature, we are. It is comparable to a man's prostate exam. There is no way a man is entered without feeling a bit violated. Women should allow themselves to feel the same.
Physically, a woman can become worn from the elements of casual sex. A single girl has the potential of sleeping with more than one man on more than one occasion. Not only does this greaten her chances of accidental pregnancy and disease, but also, to be put it gently, the potential for wear and tear. As a visual, imagine the anatomy of a female porn star. I think I've made my point.
Perpetually, the decisions you make as a single girl can severely alter the goals and plans you've been working toward. Never settle for less than what you ultimately desire in a mate, treat yourself and your body with the utmost respect and don't be afraid to be better than, a physical elitist even. For moms, don't forget you are your children's prime example and make a point to teach them well.
These topics and much more can be found in The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want, July 2009. Visit Karrine.com for more.
|Karrine Steffans is a stay-at-home mother of two. A New York Times best selling author, she is a pop culture figure who has injected her real life experiences and advice into a new generation of women and demographics commonly overlooked.|