Jessica from New Jersey writes:
Here's a doozy for you Leslie: My BFF (let's call her "Sandie") has
developed a nasty and consistent case of body odor. Remember the
"Seinfeld" episode where someone who drove Jerry's car left the odor in
the car and Jerry says, "Isn't the "O" supposed to go with the "B?" Me
and my other friends have been asking the same question. Recently
Sandie's smell has gotten so pungent that it lingers in the space she
occupied or in our nostrils. Who knows? I love Sandie and don't know
what she has done to change her personal hygiene habits and cause this
problem but it is impacting our friendship and I can't be around her.
When I first smelled it I tried making a joke like "Ooooh Sandie, big
workout this morning?" But she just answered angrily "You don't know
what you are talking about?" How do I get Sandie to smell better so I
can save our friendship?
You can't make this stuff up!!
I have a couple of suggestions for you Jessica:
1. Try honesty. She is your BFF and who better to tell her than you? But leave out the drama and make sure you two are alone. Just say, "Hey, I have to tell you ... that deodorant you are using isn't doing it's job. Try this one." That should lead you into a conversation. Even if she explains that she stopped using deodorant or antiperspirant products for whatever reasons, you can discuss how that has impacted her odor and your friendship.
2. Buy her a gift basket of deodorant , shower gel and lotion and write a note "Pamper yourself."
3. Invite her to the mall and while there take a detour into a store that sells these types of products, tell her casually which ones you like and say "I am buying one for me, shall I buy you one to try?
Be sensitive!! Things like hormonal changes and diseases can cause this problem ... so tread lightly in your efforts to get Sandie to freshen up!
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