Two single moms set her straight.
Both of us are all about supporting other mothers' parenting decisions. Of course, we're on the record at momlogic urging Nadya Suleman to place her babies in open adoption. We remain strong believers that no one should make the rules in your life but you.
But we can't help but wonder why you are adopting another child from Malawi.
To keep you up-to-date, momlogic readers, 50-year-old Madonna is trying to adopt an orphaned three-year-old girl named Mercy James.
Mercy comes from one of the poorest parts in this tiny African country. Her mother died aged 18, five days after giving birth to her, and her father hasn't been found.
Mercy's uncles live in mud-brick shacks that have grass thatch roofs. There is no electricity and they can't read or write. In fact, they'd never heard of Madonna until recently.
Madonna, if adopting another child is your strategy to divert attention from your complicated love life, it's not working.
All weekend, New York Daily News, W Magazine, and other media have been analyzing your fling with 22-year-old Brazilian hunk Jesus Luz -- and your rumored hookup with Yankee slugger Alex Rodriguez. LINK
Unfortunately, your romance now seems to be playing a part in the legal proceedings.
"Our official policy is that we do not encourage our children to be sent into broken homes," a senior official from Malawi's Ministry of Women and Child Welfare Development said, noting your split from hubby Guy Ritchie.
Will this doom your wish to adopt three-year-old Mercy James?
Frankly, it's not your love life that concerns us. You deserve to have fun. But here's what troubles us:
Little Mercy needs to remain connected to her biological family and culture. Are you willing to do this?
You're raising David according to Kabbalah, the mystic Judaism sect, and have said that you'll raise Mercy this way, too. We applaud you for your spirituality, but don't these kids also deserve a chance to stay connected to their African roots, too?
We're wondering how you are able to parent yet another adopted child? "Paid help" simply cannot take the place of a loving and present parent. Adopted kids who are suddenly transported a world away -- from everything and everyone familiar to them -- need extra attention.
You're a legendary entertainer and a fabulously wealthy woman.
But, as a mother, don't you face the same dilemma that the rest of us -- ordinary moms -- confront?
Your decision to adopt another child must mean that you are satisfied and confident that you are able to do it all.
We've been keeping our eyes on you as you've maintaining your jaw-dropping physique, evolved as a world-class performer, and managed the business empire you've created.
We are confident that you'll resolve the ongoing custody dispute about your biological children, David and Rocco, yes?
Please be emotionally and physically present in your kids' lives.
Your fellow mothers would dearly love to know how you do it.
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking," blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website for single moms that offers "a whole new way to think about life."|