Guest blogger Georgie Hocket: Here's how to handle it when your wealthy friends have more than you do.
I have a friend who is -- how should I say this? -- loaded. Her husband has a great job and, while she started out as a teacher, she now stays at home full-time with her kids.
It's hard to schedule coffee or lunch with her ,as her schedule is peppered with appointments I never seem to have: Meeting with the interior designer to pick out the furniture for the new house, talking to the guy at the piano store about the best piano for her daughter, packing for the family trip to Hawaii, and then trying to schedule the romantic getaway two weeks after they shake the sand out of their shoes. Other times, she's interviewing a new house-cleaning service, setting up a schedule with the personal trainer, telling the landscape guys what to do next.
As I listen to her, I pick dirt out from under my nails after pulling a million weeds from the front yard while defrosting some chicken in the sink.
We've been friends for years, and I've never been jealous. "That's her life, not mine," I would say to myself, honestly -- without a jealous bone in my body. I have always taken pride in doing it all ... after all, that's what mothers do.
But I have to say, the last time I saw her, I developed an unflattering shade of green in her presence. She had a new house and designer-picked furniture. Meanwhile, I obsessively stare at my out-of-date bathrooms every day wondering when I'll be able to shake the '80s.
But you never know someone's life and what goes on behind the scenes. And while she certainly has a life I do not lead, she doesn't have the life I lead -- the good husband, the great kid, the career driven solely by me.
Every life is different, and I feel pretty fortunate for the one I've got. Out-dated bathrooms or not.
|Georgie Hockett is the co-founder (and original bride!) of A Grand Wedding.com, the only online resource featuring wedding vendors with a service or product under a thousand dollars. Georgie is also the author of two chick-lit novels, and the mom of one.|