Straight talk for attached parents, from two single mothers ...
Guest blogger Rachel Sarah and Dr. Leah Klungness: We are single moms who figured out a long time ago that our lives are immeasurably better if we can finesse at least a seemingly pleasant social relationship with our fellow mothers.
Particularly when you have young children, you're in it for the long haul with fellow mothers. High school graduation is at least a decade away, so cooperating with other moms is crucial as you try to nurture your kids' relationships with peers.
We're sure you agree, right?
This is why we're asking you for a bit of empathy and understanding.
Have you ever stopped to think how a single mom feels when you sing out over the din of kindergarten dismissal or the chaos of the soccer field:
"I'm a single mom this week! My husband is traveling, and I don't know HOW you do it!"
Talk about condescending! You're a single mom "this week"? Hello!
Maybe married moms are trying to find common ground as "buddies" -- or show a bit of empathy? -- but it just doesn't some across that way.
We feel you're snubbing us.
Your husband might be out of town for a few days, but he's still present. Your husband contributes to the household budget and occasionally makes dinner.
He kills willingly things with many legs residing under the kitchen sink, brings out the recycling after only being reminded once, puts the kids to bed, and takes you out on Friday nights.
Your 24/7 life is very different from ours.
That's why we're asking you for a bit of understanding. Could you please try to remember that single moms' lives are radically different from your own?
If you'd like to be friends, terrific. We'd love to, also. I'm sure we have many common interests, and we'd love to share some conversation.
But please don't pretend -- even for a second -- that you have any idea what it's like to be a single mom.
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking," blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about single parenting."|