Are you guilty of this?
Recently, a heated debate broke out in our momlogic community. One mom wondered if she is enabling her teenagers to become lazy slobs by not enforcing rules. She says: "On the weekends, suffering from working mommy guilt, I often pick up their rooms and even bring them breakfast in bed. I empty their trash cans and clean up their bathroom. I don't force them to walk the dog or feed the bird. Aside from cleaning up their dishes and occasionally cooking -- they don't really have regular chores. Am I just nurturing my girls or am I messing up big time?"
At least one mom thinks enablers are messing their kids up big time. BayleesMommy writes: "I am so sick and tired of parents who enable their children. I HATE watching Nanny 911 episodes -- it's like that train wreck thing, WHAT IS GOING ON WITH TODAY'S PARENTS???? Are we scared if we scold them in public, we'll be looked down on or taken to jail? I just don't get it ... These 'kids' are our future and they are children who live and act out with no consequences or boundaries. Since spanking has basically been titled as 'child abuse,' are we just lost on what to do? Does anyone feel this same way?"
Carol says: "I am with you 100% and then some!!! I am that parent who says 'Okay, what did my child do?' I will never be afraid to yell at my children in public if they deserve it. If someone looks down at me, I tell them, 'I'm the parent.'"
Bellangel says: "I have taken my childen to the bathroom while out to dinner with family and during church services, spanked them, washed their face, and told them it will happen again if they don't behave. Guess what? They behaved ... didn't need to talk to them again."
Happymom says: "I am a firm believer of setting boundaries for kids -- they don't know unless we teach them how to act in the real world. It's not something born internally -- it's taught. With that said, I do not spank, hit, or abuse my child. I have never had to and never will!"
What do YOU think? Are YOU enabling YOUR kid?