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My Friend Totally FLIRTS with My Husband!

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Here's the latest installment of the Friendship Court.

a woman flirting with a man and another one angry

Maureen from Charlotte, North Carolina writes: I need my day in court!! Jodi and I have been friends for twenty years. In fact, Jodi was my husband Rob's high school sweetheart ... and therein lies the problem. I have been happily married to Rob for 10 years. Jodi is married too (12 years) and we hang out a lot as couples. But recently, every time we are together as a foursome, she is openly flirtatious with Rob. She puts on this sex kitten voice and says things like, "Remember when we told our parents we were going on the senior trip, but we took that motel room and did everything but sleep there?"

She touches him and even sat on his lap for one story. It was funny the first time she wanted to stroll down memory lane, but I need to figure out how to put up a roadblock. She goes on and on. Rob squirms because he knows I hate this and, to my knowledge, he does nothing to encourage her. We both try politely getting her to stop and shut up but she ignores this and the visible steam that also comes out of her husband's head when she does this. I certainly do not want to hang out as couples anymore and I am losing all interest in Jodi even though there are other aspects of our friendship I like. What's your ruling?

Leslie Adler: Maureen: Jodi is guilty of reckless endangerment of a friendship! Clearly, she is dissatisfied in her own marriage and is looking back to better times ... which unfortunately, happened to be with your man. You need to communicate to her that she best back off. Tell her flirting and reminiscing with Rob about their sexual history is off limits if you two are to remain friends! But, as her friend of twenty years, I think you should tell her you recognize that perhaps there is "trouble in [her] paradise" that is causing her to behave this way and if there is anything you can do to help her to address her "present life" rather than stuff that happened in the past, you will try to be a friend to her.

Let us know how it goes, Maureen, and let's see what our fellow momlogic readers have to say about the topic in the Friendship Court!

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@MandieD79 November 6, 2009, 10:56 PM

I would be furious and have to say “Look here, this isn’t cool, you are making a fool of yourself and the husband and I do not approve.” She’s either unhappy in her marriage and/or mad about something trying to get under your/her hubs skin.

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