Maureen from Charlotte, North Carolina writes: I need my day in court!! Jodi and I have been friends for twenty
years. In fact, Jodi was my husband Rob's high school sweetheart ...
and therein lies the problem. I have been happily married to Rob for 10
years. Jodi is married too (12 years) and we hang out a lot as couples. But recently, every time we are together as a foursome, she is openly
flirtatious with Rob. She puts on this sex kitten voice and says things
like, "Remember when we told our parents we were going on the senior
trip, but we took that motel room and did everything but sleep there?"
Leslie Adler: Maureen: Jodi is guilty of reckless endangerment of a friendship! Clearly, she is dissatisfied in her own marriage and is looking back to better times ... which unfortunately, happened to be with your man. You need to communicate to her that she best back off. Tell her flirting and reminiscing with Rob about their sexual history is off limits if you two are to remain friends! But, as her friend of twenty years, I think you should tell her you recognize that perhaps there is "trouble in [her] paradise" that is causing her to behave this way and if there is anything you can do to help her to address her "present life" rather than stuff that happened in the past, you will try to be a friend to her.
Let us know how it goes, Maureen, and let's see what our fellow momlogic readers have to say about the topic in the Friendship Court!
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