Now the artists who brought us "Run It" and the brilliant lyrics "Under my um-brella, brella, brella..." are totally pissing me off. In fact, this mom hates Chris Brown and Rihanna!
Instead of producing music and entertaining us, they are part of the international conversation ... and worse, part of my daughter's conversation for all the wrong reasons.
Sydney asked me, "Why would she get back together with him, Mom?" and I resent these two famous people who make their living because of kids like mine wanting to buy their music for causing my daughter to ask me this question: "Why would a woman go back to a man that beat the crap out of her?"
All the things we teach our kids, like "People make mistakes;" "Forgiveness is a virtue;" "You can't walk in someone else's shoes;" "We shouldn't be judgmental;" "Innocent until proven guilty"... none of it applies!
I don't want to say any of these things to Sydney in this circumstance.
All I want to say is, "Rihanna is an ass." I don't want to discuss circumstances or what-ifs. In the context of my daughter asking me why a woman would get back together with a man who punched her in the face repeatedly, it is irrelevant to me what her reasons are. The only lesson I want to teach my 11-year-old is that Chris Brown's behavior was unequivocally unacceptable.
I want to tell Sydney and I pray that moms all over the world are using this celeb news to tell their daughters:
No man should ever raise his hand to you ... especially not a man who claims to love you ...
This leopard will never change his spots and there is no rationale, reason or excuse that can ever be offered for what Chris Brown did ...
If he hit her once, he will hit her again, and no self-loving person allows themselves to be victimized.
That's how I will handle this "current event"...
And I will use my blog to make this plea: Celebs love to come out for causes. They use their voices to help fight cancer, feed starving children and save the environment ... Rihanna has just willingly or un-willingly made herself the poster child for domestic abuse, and she has a duty to herself and to her young fans across the world to come out on the right side of this cause.
Are you having this conversation with your kids?
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