Many moms are resorting to this very harsh form of "tough love."
I just found out last night that my 17-year-old daughter stole my ATM card, more than once, and purchased things without permission. She knows stealing and lying are wrong. Believe me, I've been as vigilant a parent as possible.
To demonstrate the seriousness of what she'd done, I asked the police for help. An officer came over, handcuffed her and sat her in the back of his car while he explained what a felony was. He described, in detail, what happens to people who steal. I hope the tactic worked.
Everyone makes mistakes. I'd rather my daughter learn the consequences of serious errors while those consequences are still small and not life-altering. It's sad to watch a kid with such potential suffer but it felt good to know I didn't excuse her behavior, accept it, tolerate it, or make excuses. Burying my head in the sand does my children a huge disservice. If they don't learn to make good choices while in my home, society will teach them to obey the law. I know I can say I love her enough to help her stay on the straight and narrow path- the one that leads to freedom and happiness.
Back in February, we told you about the mother who pressed charges against her own son after he stole her car and drove under the influence. "He needs to know that there needs to be a stop to it and if I don't go this way he could hurt someone or hurt himself and I don't want that to happen," she explains.
Even if someone would never think of turning their own flesh and blood in, many refuse to bail them family members when the law finally catches up with them. When Barron Hilton got charged with a DUI last year, his sister Paris reportedly refused to bail him out. An Australian mother made waves when she refused to bail her son out of jail and then called on other moms to follow her lead. Family counselor Rosanne Tobey LPC says, depending on the situation and the age of the child, this could be a good idea. "If you've got a kid arrested for DUI, leaving them in jail overnight is a good way to let them think things out," she says. "It really sends the message that if they break the rules, they have to suffer the consequences."
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