We've both had different experiences bathing with our kids, but this much is certain:
Our kids love to play in the water (don't yours?). When it comes to taking a bath or shower to get clean, however, that's a different story.
Our toddler daughters loved to fill up the tub with lots of bubbles and fashion fantasy shampoo hair-dos. One of our daughters serenaded us with "pretend songs" in the tub, too.
Dr. Leah's baby boy, however, could not be coaxed into a bathtub filled with bubbles. And he furiously resisted shampoo.
She never bathed with him past infancy. This choice had nothing to do with gender differences. Her little guy played -- actively! -- in the tub. He loved that watery expanse as the setting for his imaginary flotilla. Sitting on the bathroom floor glancing through magazine while marveling at his fantasy exploits was a welcome respite. (Of course, few magazines survived the watery onslaught unscathed.)
What's bath time-with-the-kids like at your home?
Bathing with your kids is a very personal decision. It seems that most parents think it's fine for a toddler to take a bath or shower with either parent. Things get a bit more controversial after that.
Many parents drift away from "co-bathing" during the preschool to early school age years. Exactly when parents stop has to do with how the parent and the kid feel about this issue more than anything else.
What you're comfortable with depends on the age -- and gender -- of your kid. Also, you're likely influenced by what was considered "normal" when you were growing up.
Here's what we think: when either you or your kid feels uncomfortable and wants more privacy, then "co-bathing" should stop. Some kids (and adults, of course) are simply more modest.
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|