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Doctor: Buy Your Daughter a Toy!

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Sure, we tell our daughters about the birds and the bees ... but teaching them about VIBRATORS is another thing altogether!

Recently on "Oprah," Dr. Laura Berman suggested that introducing the concept of vibrators to our teen daughters might be a good idea. After all, many if not most teens are seeking sexual satisfaction from their classmates and other inexperienced jerks who often love 'em and leave 'em. Why not a vibrator? They can't get pregnant from a vibe. And they can't get an STD from one either!


The moms in our momlogic community are "buzzing" about this topic.

RP Mom says:

Um, no. While I will teach my daughter about SAFE sex, I can't even begin to think about giving her a vibrator. That is her for to explore if she wishes. I won't be crossing that line!

Julie says:

I really don't know if I would BUY it for her, but I would certainly bring up the topic of vibrators and self-pleasure.

Jill says:

I'm a big subscriber to the "if she asks, then I will tell" philosophy. She would absolutely cringe if I went anywhere NEAR this subject with her. But not that there's anything wrong with that.

Jackie says:

Yeah... no. I'm all for being open to the idea that they explore but it's not my job to help her out there, in my opinion. She has plenty of time for that and I'm sure there will be someone to come along and introduce the idea. Talk about getting involved in all areas!

We're not sure if we'd actually BUY one for our daughters (can you say AWKWARD?), but we are intrigued by the idea of at least discussing the topic with our teens.

Pediatrician Dr. Cara Natterson tells momlogic: "So much of early sexual behavior in teens has little to do with achieving sexual satisfaction and much more to do with lack of self esteem. So often when teenage girls are having sex, they are doing it to fit in or to win
affection or social acceptance. We shouldn't kid ourselves that by giving our daughters vibrators we are solving the problem of teenage insecurity and immature decision-making."

Do you agree with Gayle that this is "too much information"? Or is it a step in the right direction? Comment in our momlogic community.


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43 comments so far | Post a comment now
concerned May 21, 2011, 6:37 AM

Would it be wrong to show my daughter how to use the sex toys if I bought her one

Sparky May 22, 2011, 10:56 AM

Thank God! Someone with brnais speaks!

Sparky May 22, 2011, 10:56 AM

Thank God! Someone with brnais speaks!

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