Did my husband lose his job because he's a hands-on dad?
Momlogic's Jackie: I have the best husband around. He does parent/toddler classes, doctor appointments, and grocery shopping -- sometimes with all three kids in tow. He's a true partner in every sense of the word.
He has to be.
We're a dual-income family, working opposite shifts in order for one of us to always be there for the kids. It's difficult -- we sacrifice our time as a family unit and, most of all, time as a couple. But we do what we need to do, just like millions of other parents.
Sometimes, my husband works overtime, leaving me scrambling to work from home to keep our family running smoothly. Other times, it's my job that requires more, forcing him to step up to cover for me.
On the rare occasion my husband has to stay home to help take care of a sick kid, or is late to work because of a school event, I've urged him to keep the reason a secret. Because let's be honest: while being an available dad is a good thing for our kids, employers are less than impressed when a guy chooses his family over the job -- especially the single guy running the joint.
My husband is great at what he does; I would even go so far as to say he's one of the best. And I should know -- I was working closely with him when we first got together. He's smart, detailed, and stays cool under pressure.
But that only gets you so far these days. My hard-working hubby has spent many a day shaking his leg to remove the young, single guys snipping at his heels like hungry puppies. When the boss says jump, these guys are already three feet in the air. Experience is no longer the important thing -- being cheap and willing to put in 80-hour weeks is what wins out.
I'm not oblivious to the fact that this economy sucks. Over two million people have already lost their jobs this year. I get it. But it seems like parents are the first to go. Could it be because they've been in the workforce longer and make more money? Or do home responsibilities make us less desirable employees?
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