I am eight months pregnant with my first child. My best friend Connie, who already has two children, has been a great source of comfort and advice for me. She helped me pick my doctor, she helped decorate the baby's room and get me equipped for when the baby comes and I have appreciated all her help. Yesterday, when we were out for lunch with a mutual friend, the friend asked if I would be breastfeeding and I said "No, it's not for me?" Connie went crazy. She said I would be a terrible mother, that breastfeeding was best and that I obviously don't appreciate any of her help if I am not going to listen to her about breast feeding. I left the lunch and I don't think Connie will be calling me and I have no desire to call her. Is a difference of opinion over breastfeeding going to ruin our friendship?
Leslie Adler: Gina, Connie deserves a big time out in friendship jail! The decision to breast feed is extremely personal. The help and advice she gave you should have been motivated by love and friendship not a feeling of entitlement to tell you how to raise your child. Plus, having had two children already, Connie should realize that this is no time to stress
you out. If you want to be the "better person" call Connie and let her know she needs to respect your choices the same way you have respected hers. Hopefully "Aunt Connie" will come to her senses and come around to greet the baby. Best of luck!!
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