Michelle from New York writes: My name is Michelle and I am a "Cougar." I am 42 and divorced with two children. I have a couple of bucks and I don't need anything in particular from a man .... except for love and affection, if you know what I mean. I read the piece you wrote on thevuvclub.com called "Cougars?" and used it to break the news to my best friend Loraine (who is married) that I am in total like and lust with a 28-year-old man. I thought she would be my biggest cheerleader and be happy for me. Instead, she spoke to me like I was a criminal. She said my children would think I was a child molester and that no one in the community would ever be able to respect me again. Meanwhile, my ex, who is 44 has a 30-year-old girlfriend and no one has ever said a word about that. This isn't a case of choosing a man over my friend or my kids. I am just having fun with a man who happens to be younger than me. Why can't Loraine see that?
Leslie Adler: Dear Michelle, Can you spell "j-e-a-l-o-u-s-y?" 'Cause that is the ailment your friend Loraine is suffering from. Sounds to me like you are enjoying the companionship of someone who has the legal right to vote and drink and consent to having relations of all kinds with you and you should ignore the judgments of your supposed best friend and the rest of your community that doesn't get it. It seems to be working for Bruce Willis (new younger wife) and Demi Moore (Ashton Kutcher) and all their kids, doesn't it? As for Loraine, just as you shared the "Cougars?" column with her, you should share this and tell her to report to The Friendship Court for some tips on being areal friend.
|Leslie Adler mother, lawyer and creator of the Vuv Club shares her witty thoughts on the many roles women play in their everyday lives. Leslie also combines her legal skills and friendship experience as presiding judge of Momlogic's "The Friendship Court."|