The death of Natasha Richardson really hit home for one mom.
Guest blogger Liesl Bradner: When I heard the news of Natasha Richardson's tragic death and the sons she left behind, Michael, 13 and Daniel, 12, it brought back painful memories of my own mother's death. I was the same age as Daniel when my mother died, coincidentally, from a brain injury as well. A sudden brain aneurysm at age 38.
How does someone so young cope with such a monumental loss? There is no easy answer. It will have long term effects well into adulthood. In fact I miss my mother more now than ever.
One of my therapists said that when a parent dies the child remains emotionally at the age they were at their parent's death. There are definitely times when I still feel like that lost 12 year old girl who still longs for her mother nearly 30 years later.
It's a pivotal time in life when children are teetering on adolescence, still needing the nurturing of home yet testing the waters of independence. A time when they break away from their parents and friends become the center of their life. Doing this caused a delayed mourning for me. It wasn't until college when I overheard some of my friends talking to their mothers on the phone about their wedding plans did I realize I would never have that mother-daughter connection.
The tween years are an awkward age when big changes happen (both emotional and physical) and luckily Michael and Daniel have their father to guide them through. I fortunately had my best friend's mother to help me out with those "things" a young girl needs. I was painfully shy and couldn't bear to ask my dad, who was pretty clueless.
After the 9/11 terrorist attacks, a variety of camps (Comfort Zone Camp, Camp Haze) have sprung up for children to help them cope with the death of a parent and to talk to other kids in the same situation so they don't feel so alone.
Liam Neeson should surround them (and himself) with loved ones and relatives during this extremely difficult time. The pain may diminish but believe me, it will never go away.