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Men Who Love Heavier Women

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Jodi Bryson: A new sex study finds that some men prefer their women with a few extra pounds.

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A gorgeous friend of mine is about 50 pounds overweight and a single mom -- but she won't create an online profile until she reaches her goal weight. "I'm not skinny enough for Match.com," she said, so resolute. Turns out she could be ideal just the way she is.

According to a new study published in The Journal of Sex Research, some men like their women heavy; many even prefer their partners obese. They're called "fat admirers" and the findings reveal that they are also likely to find extremely thin women attractive.

The story asked two groups of men to rate photographs of ten types of female bodies. One group did not identify with the FA subculture, which encompasses everything from obese fetishism to the simplicity of positive support within the healthy fat movement. The other group was scouted at an FA event and was identified as FA.

"Skinny people already know about FA, but they call those guys 'chubby chasers'," my friend explained, then turned to her coloring 8-year-old daughter to tell her she didn't like the phrase. I agree; chubby chaser is awful. But I'm not sure fat admirer sounds much better.

In the study, the FAs preferred the photographs of women with a body mass index (BMI) of 29.24, which is just shy of obese according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. BMI is determined by dividing weight in kilograms by height in meters, and the example reported in the story explained that a woman at 5'6 is overweight at 155 pounds and obese at 190 pounds.

Wikipedia has an entry on the FA subject, and describes fat admirers as typically heterosexual males. However, the preference for a bigger partner is inclusive of straight women and gay folks, known eponymously as female fat admirers and gay fat admirers. What's unexpected from the study is that FA men also liked the photographs of dramatically underweight women -- the report uses the word "emaciated" -- with a BMI of less than 15.

Obese and emaciated women struck their fancy? Is FA healthy or not?

The lead researcher said the findings suggest a rejection of "sociocultural norms." That's fine science, but the polarity of obese and emaciated is weird, no? Human physical attraction shows traceable socio-anthropological patterns. Replace the word fat with robust, thick or heavy if you want to, but it's still instinct to want someone because we perceive him as a healthy mate. I recognize that within the subset of FA, there are great guys who simply like more than a little junk in the trunk. But to view obesity or emaciation as sexually attractive is, frankly, suspicious. And I said so.

"If a guy doesn't like me, I just assume it's because I'm fat," my friend said. She's been divorced for six years and dating for four, and whenever we talk about her weight or her diet, she has a familiar tone of resignation. She added: "Just like anything else that's rooted in a superficial desire, there are the authentic guys and there are the creeps."

I'll give it up that the break from wanting a bony, over-exercised real housewife of Orange County is refreshing, but a new PC term doesn't change the fact that fat admiration is a highly superficial preference. On the other hand, what woman at some point in her single dating life didn't hit on a tall guy just because he was tall? And, sorry, but at no time to no man am I ever going to say "Don't date me because you're seriously attracted to my face." Is an initial attraction for being big any different?

We'd love to know your opinion of fat admirers. Is it genuine and healthy fat acceptance? Or is it ... chubby chasing? Please, tell us.

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quesadilla May 20, 2009, 4:26 AM

The mainstream reason some men are naturally attracted to heavy women is that, during their formative years, their central female caregiver was heavy. I’m not a fan of Freud, but he was very intelligent, very observant, and very RIGHT about some things. If you were to study — REALLY study — Freud’s concepts, and if you, too, were very observant, you would realize this is the case.

Lisa May 22, 2009, 11:09 PM

Who cares about weight? What really turns on a lot of men is *long hair*!

desmond May 24, 2009, 9:37 AM

hi my name is desmond i live in ghana and im looking for a nice fat girl i hate to use the word fat, i prefer plus size girl. i would like to … im hoping to find a girl who is big because i love big girls. please reply .

Cherry May 28, 2009, 5:34 AM

Ok, here’s my opinion. I am a 25 year old full figured woman. I love my body. I don’t have self esteem issues(not saying that I never did) because my boyfriend and through the years myself have realized that I don’t need to be a size 4 to count in this world. Growing up I was always a bigger girl, but not obese. Still I got ridiculed for being “bigger” then the cheerleading population. However my own personal study in high school went to prove that alot of guys even in high school didn’t want just skin and bones. They wanted some meat on those bones! :-) I do think its strange that they say that men that liked big girls also liked severly underweight women. That makes no sense at all. Why would you be sexually turned on by bones and then by a voluptuous woman? It is usually one or the other NOT both. Not all big women have self esteem issues and not all skinny woman are big girl haters. So her’s my point-you like what you like and no one can change that. Big is beautiful. Judge people when you get to know them, don’t pre-judge. Size mean nothing, you could fall i nlove and marry a skinny girl @130lbs. and then 3 kids later she 280lbs. So for myself and every other big woman out their-LOVE YOURSELF because that will always attract men I don’t care what size you are 12 or 30 it doesn’t matter.

Iris  May 29, 2009, 7:25 PM

Some men like fat women because he finds her bodby beautiful, gets turned on by it. Stomache, thigh, butt, breasts are what they like. But at the same time, just as there are superficial men who only date women for their body, there are men who are into the personality of the person who also has the body they like.

I’m not fat and I get that. I am not surprised by this at all. I remember women saying they couldnt believe Bill Clinton was into someone like Monica who was fat, and they said fat like it was a foul disgusting word. Yet thats what Bill liked. Too bad he went after it as a married man.

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JLD June 17, 2009, 12:00 PM


I want to know where all these men are that are attracted to big women. I’m a big woman and I sure have not found them. All I hear them talk about is how nasty fat chicks are. And I have been all over the united states.

moonstarz June 18, 2009, 12:28 PM

Fat admirer? Chubby chaser? How about beautiful/attractive woman of any size lover? Why do these men have to be set apart or different? Skinny doesn’t hold the patent on cute, sorry.

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sandra June 24, 2009, 8:23 PM

looking for a good man that is humble/long suffering/listen befor he speaks/know how to treat a women/that know what word faithfull means/not a drunk/dont’t beleive in lying/yes am a heavy woman but i want a good man not one that think his doing me a favor.i know that no body is perfect,but there is such thing as a good man just like there is a such thing as a good women,

Tigger July 17, 2009, 5:29 PM

I like large women, and that is that.
I need no “excuses” for it, I just
think that very large women look good
to me, most guys like them much smaller
than I do but that is for them.

I know what I find attractive, it is
the large women with alot of “fat”,
and in my book “fat” isn’t a bad
word I’m a fat boy myself, and I
like my women BIG.

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Mara July 29, 2009, 3:04 AM

Okay ladies…. Really??? Truly big and small women have it all….. Live it up ladies, believe in yourself. Whether you be big or small, ugly or beautiful. Noone can define you unless you let them… Make your own path be who you want to be! Work it ladies…. Ps. I am a big women and I love myself and I love people.

winter October 10, 2009, 7:19 PM

I am of average weight and just found out my husband of 17 years prefers very large women. I found many of his large women porn mags and porn sites on his computer. Why do you think he did not date or marry a large women? I can guess of course for obvious reasons but he will not discuss it. Anyone else in this position?

Anonymous November 17, 2009, 7:55 PM

I loves teh fatties, and my girl knows it. :D

Anonymous November 18, 2009, 4:30 AM

i love the looks of all bigger women

The man! November 21, 2009, 12:45 AM

After reading this article, I’m actually quite glad to see it’s becoming more noticeable that men like bigger women. I do agree though that I’m a normal gentleman though, I’m no different than a man who may prefer Hispanic or blonde hair. I’m a tall athletic male, and I’ve been attracted to full figured women for as long as I could remember. I had been embarrassed about it as a teenager. My teammates on sports teams always put down heavier set girls, and would only go for thin ones. My immediate family is also very health conscious, so they always said thin is the way to go. As I got older, I’ve learned to not worry anymore about myself, and to live the way I choose too. And it’s been amazing! It’s about time full figured women speak out for themselves more, and the men who are attracted to their bodies do too! I’m proud of who I am, and the full figured women I go out with. And what specifically do I like about full figured women, well their body is a big one. I love extra meat on a body, and bigger breasts and soft bigger round tummies. Personality means a lot too, so if a womans got it all… Great!! I am who I am, and I am no different from anyone else. Thank you for this article!

The man! November 21, 2009, 12:52 AM

After reading this article, I’m actually quite glad to see it’s becoming more noticeable that men like bigger women. I do agree though that I’m a normal gentleman though, I’m no different than a man who may prefer Hispanic or blonde hair. I’m a tall athletic male, and I’ve been attracted to full figured women for as long as I could remember. I had been embarrassed about it as a teenager. My teammates on sports teams always put down heavier set girls, and would only go for thin ones. My immediate family is also very health conscious, so they always said thin is the way to go. As I got older, I’ve learned to not worry anymore about myself, and to live the way I choose too. And it’s been amazing! It’s about time full figured women speak out for themselves more, and the men who are attracted to their bodies do too! I’m proud of who I am, and the full figured women I go out with. And what specifically do I like about full figured women, well their body is a big one. I love extra meat on a body, and bigger breasts and soft bigger round tummies. Personality means a lot too, so if a womans got it all… Great!! I am who I am, and I am no different from anyone else. Thank you for this article!

The man! November 21, 2009, 12:52 AM

After reading this article, I’m actually quite glad to see it’s becoming more noticeable that men like bigger women. I do agree though that I’m a normal gentleman though, I’m no different than a man who may prefer Hispanic or blonde hair. I’m a tall athletic male, and I’ve been attracted to full figured women for as long as I could remember. I had been embarrassed about it as a teenager. My teammates on sports teams always put down heavier set girls, and would only go for thin ones. My immediate family is also very health conscious, so they always said thin is the way to go. As I got older, I’ve learned to not worry anymore about myself, and to live the way I choose too. And it’s been amazing! It’s about time full figured women speak out for themselves more, and the men who are attracted to their bodies do too! I’m proud of who I am, and the full figured women I go out with. And what specifically do I like about full figured women, well their body is a big one. I love extra meat on a body, and bigger breasts and soft bigger round tummies. Personality means a lot too, so if a womans got it all… Great!! I am who I am, and I am no different from anyone else. Thank you for this article!

lj November 27, 2009, 1:26 PM

Since height is based on chance not personal choices dont you think judging a man by his height is EXTREMELY SUPERFICIAL. What matters is how he makes you feel .. right?

Some men like BBW. Some men like other kinds of women. Some men will only like what the media tells them to like. Skinny women are rich…women wanna be rich…being skinny is a part of the look. Skinny women marry rich guys….etc etc.


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