Jackie: Yes, I do know that plenty of American children need homes. Thanks for asking.
Madonna's attempt to adopt another child has created a bit of controversy. While not surprising considering everything she does has some drama involved, what's hurtful to others like me is that accusatory question "why can't you just adopt from here?" I'm one of the many parents who've adopted overseas who've heard it from strangers, supposed friends -- even family, "Why would you adopt internationally when there are so many kids here in the U.S?" While I totally get it -- adopting domestically was actually the first option we researched -- I can't help but wonder if what these people are saying is that a child is less worthy of a family if he or she wasn't born in this country.
My reasons to 'go international' are similar to those of Amy Simmons, mother of 9, who adopted five children from Russia. She says, "The trend [in the U.S] is leaning more and more that you need to be a foster parent first, but there are no guarantees [of adoption]. We not only didn't want the child to get their hopes up and then possibly have to leave, but we didn't want our children to feel they may lose their siblings. It would be devastating for all of us."
Parents around the world all have their own reasons for taking the adoption journey. And while I'm pretty open minded when it comes to answering questions like 'why not from here' by the curious, I just don't feel the need to defend my family's actions. Because we're not out to save the world, just find our child.
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