Beth writes:

I went to a party with my friend Tara. It was a "fancy" event and we wore dresses and had our hair and makeup done. I thought I looked pretty good and I thought Tara was one of my best friends. The next morning I called Tara to do a "party re-cap." I told her she looked beautiful and we were sort of gossiping about how everyone else looked at the party. Tara was in Starbucks when I reached her on her cell phone and at one point in the conversation she said "Oh, Marie just walked in (Marie was at the party too) let me call you later." I said, "Sure" and when I went to call another friend I could hear that Tara never hung up the phone. I tried yelling but she was busy talking ... about ME!!! There was no one else at the party named Beth so it was definitely me. Tara was saying to Marie, "Can you believe Beth's dress? Her ass looked twice it's size ... and who did her hair and makeup? A blind girl." She said more but it's too hurtful to repeat. I know I should have hung up but I was in shock. I hate Tara right now but we were gossiping about others before she started gossiping about me ... I don't know if I can be friends with Tara anymore but I hate to think I am a hypocrite. Whaddya think?

Leslie Adler: Beth, you are a hypocrite but that doesn't mean you can't learn a lesson or two from this. You got lucky and didn't get "caught in the act" of being mean and catty, but obviously you know that if you don't want to be talked about the way Tara talked about you, you shouldn't be talking that way about others. Tara, on the other hand, got "caught" and what she said does not sound like the types of things friends say about friends. You should tell her what you heard because the truth is while I don't think your friendship can be saved, I think you both can learn a lot from this. Certainly you will always check to make sure to terminate a call and hopefully you will learn something about what it means to be a true friend.

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