Don't get me wrong: it's the most challenging piece I've written to date. After all, every essay in this anthology is a response to the question:
"What would you tell your mother, if you could tell her anything?"
I touch upon the fact that my mother and I stopped speaking to each other for almost a year. Every time I sat down to work on that essay, I shrank. One moment, I was backing away because I wanted to take care of my mother. The next, I was lashing out. I'd never get it right.
"What would we tell our mothers and daughters if we could tell them anything?" Editor Andrea N. Richesin writes in the Introduction. "If all our self-doubts were dismissed and honesty was the only option, what would we really say?"
Richesin herself reveals "a family secret" in the Introduction: "that my mother was pregnant with me on her wedding day."
Writers really tell it all here, such as Anne Marie Feld, who writes about finding her mother after she'd committed suicide. And Amanda Coyne, who writes about how her mother chose her then-boyfriend over her.
Both women, however, are just two examples of mothers who found the courage to forgive their mothers -- and accept them.
"I've found it so inspiring how these women have endured heartbreak, but survived nonetheless," says Richesin. "These writers discover who their mothers truly are, forgive them for past wrongs, and ultimately accept that they are, indeed, their mothers' daughters."
So, momlogic readers: If you could tell your mom anything, what would you say?
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|