Ladies, it's not the other woman who is the problem -- it's your husband.
Naila: Who are you? Why are you ALWAYS so quick to judge, blame, and react? Tell me, why am I supposed to feel sorry for John Edwards's wife just because she is the wife? When did having a ring on your finger absolve you of all the ills of the world? Husband cheats? Blame the hooker, the woman that "stole" him from the wife. Husband cheats? Forgive the husband and take sides, create shirts and Facebook groups dissecting the psyche of a cheater, a home-wrecker. Focus on the extreme emotional pain the cheating caused the ever-so-perfect wife. Show her strength and resolve while taking the children to school. Exiting the church, smiling with hesitation into the camera. Cue the violins.
I am not condoning cheating. I am not suggesting the women in the equation are blameless, but what I am screaming loud and clear is that you must hold the husband's feet to the same fire. I am disgusted by the self-righteousness of the wives who react so viscerally, so viciously, as if it was their husband that cheated.
Men lie; men weave Pulitzer Prize-winning tales of loneliness, telling of wives that withhold everything from sex to affection. They are contradicted, dying to leave a floundering marriage -- were it not for their children. Why is it so hard to comprehend how passion mixed with clandestine meetings in boutique hotels could cause women that wouldn't ordinarily be the other woman to become the other woman?
The other woman didn't stand and commit her life to anyone; it was the husband saying for better or for worse.
The husband is the problem.
If wives searched deeper and held their husbands half as accountable as they do the other women -- and stopped making excuses for defenseless behavior, investigated their own marriages as strenuously as the character of the women they vilify -- maybe I wouldn't be writing this article.
|Naila, Single, 40 and Preggers, is originally from Boston. Her passion is all things sports and her two kiddos -- one 12 and one on the way.|