More and more people are holding off on having more than one child due to the financial crisis.
Our Moms and the Recession survey found that, in this economy, many moms are making the decision to forego having another child. In fact, 27% of moms ages 25-34 want to have more children but have decided not to, in light of the current economic situation.
Will today's youngest generation become a generation of only children?
We asked psychologist Dr. Chrystal Evans, an only child herself, for her perspective on "Generation I."
"I have had several friends who planned to have more than one child, but now they just can't afford it," says Dr. Evans. "The reality is that now parents have to think differently about money. There was a time when you just had to worry about saving for college. Now, parents have to make plans for how they are going to afford preschool and nursery school. There was a time when most people were comfortable sending their kids to public school, and private school was a luxury, not a necessity. But in many neighborhoods these days, public school is not even a consideration. When that comes into play, suddenly having more than one kid starts to feel extravagant."
"When I was 5 or 6, I told my mom, 'I'm an only child and a lonely child,'" Evans remembers. "Raising an only child definitely comes with its own set of unique challenges."
Here are Dr. Chrystal Evans' tips for raising only children:
• Find playdates and age-appropriate activities that get them out around other kids. (A lot of only children spend a lot of time with their parents and parents' friends. This can help them develop more independent and mature personalities, which is a positive. But it can also make kids more introverted because they don't develop age-appropriate social skills.)
• Because they don't get as much social interaction, always talk and communicate with your child, not talking AT them, but WITH them. This can make only children more verbal.
• Discourage "me, me, me" attitudes by introducing kids to charity. Give back in whatever way is comfortable for your family.
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|Dr. Chrystal Evans is a licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 15 years experience providing therapy for adults, couples, teens, and children. She's contracted by the State of California Alcohol and Drug Programs as a Clinical Assessor with the CARE Program and along with her business partners, is producing a children's developmental music video series, Bebop Braineez. She and her husband are the active parents of an infant and a preschooler.|
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