I feel for Elizabeth Edwards because she is being vilified for "letting" John make a presidential run despite knowing about his extramarital affair; for writing a book ("Resilience") that makes public the details of their life and that affair; and now, for doing the talk-show circuit to promote that book and tell her story. Vilified ... by the likes of Maureen Dowd and Tina Brown for "parading" the story of the affair before the public and the Edwards' children ... a story that belongs to her and which she has every right to tell.
I feel sorry for Elizabeth Edwards because powerful, smart women have more to say about her reactions than they do about John's or the "other women's" actions, and because she is responding to those women who, if you are listening, are saying, in essence, "John did what he did and yes that part was public, but the other woman has been 'mum' on the issue and John is not doing the talk-show circuit talking about his affair, so you should be a lady, for the sake of the children, and be mum about it too."
Is anyone else out there outraged about that besides me?
Elizabeth's reactions to the circumstances in her life and her "resilience" are interesting and inspirational to me. And, I am guessing, I am not alone in feeling that way.
Is her book a form of revenge? Did she really write it for her children, as a legacy? I don't care what her motivation is. The woman has suffered the tragic loss of a son, has a chronic incurable cancer that will surely bring death to her door sooner than anyone would like, and her moral presidential-hopeful husband turned out to be neither moral nor a presidential hopeful -- and I think it's a wonder she gets up in the morning ... let alone mothers three children, writes a book, does "Oprah" and the "Today" show, and ... did I mention she undergoes cancer treatment?
So, I feel for Elizabeth Edwards because the likes of Matt Lauer are asking her, "Why didn't you leave John when you found out about the affair?" as if a mother of three fighting cancer has a world of options open to her.
I don't see her calling John a victim like Naila suggested. I just see that no matter what she does, she will be victimized.
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