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Jon Gosselin is NOT a Stay-at-Home Dad!

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As a stay-at-home dad, I am offended that Jon calls himself one.

Jon Gosselin

Jay Brown: Watching "Jon & Kate Plus Eight" this week turned my stomach. Both of these people have sold their souls, yet claim everything they are doing is for "their kids." What a crock!

Seeing Jon claim he quit his job to be home with the kids literally made me laugh. He quit his job (or was fired from it, depending on what you believe) because HE WAS ON A TV SHOW. That's his job.

He's not a stay-at-home dad. He has a staff of people helping him with those kids 24 hours a day. He checks in, heads to crafts service, lets the crew deal with the kids, and then he goes out. I mean, how can you go out if you have EIGHT KIDS? He's obviously not dealing with making dinners and lunches, helping with homework, picking up and dropping off kids, arranging playdates. That's what a real stay-at-home dad does!

On the show, Jon claims, "I love being home with the kids." That's like his go-to line, even though he's slouched on the couch looking miserable. I don't buy it. I can assure you I do not "love" staying home with my kids every minute. As any stay-at-home parent can tell you, there are highs and there are lows. There are moments when this is the best job in the world, and moments when you'd love to pull your hair out and go freaking berserk. You would do anything for a break. It's HARD work. It's not a walk in the park, and it's not a breeze. At times, it's aggravating. It's not just the kids you have to deal with. You're in contact with every single person that they're in contact with -- their teachers, their playdate's parents, their doctors, their dentists. It's a lot to manage having two kids, much less eight.

This guy shouldn't have a chance to breathe if he has eight kids and he's a stay-at-home dad. Larry Shine, the widowed lawyer who has nine kids on his own, is someone Jon should take some lessons from. A real stay-at-home dad is up at 5:30 AM making breakfast and lunches, and doesn't stop working until long after the kids have gone to bed.

Jon says that Kate is always off doing her book signings and at speaking engagements, while he is home with the kids. They get paid $75,000 an episode. Why is it really necessary for her to be gone so much when they are already making that kind of money? GREED. She claims she does "everything for her kids," yet she's traveling when there is really no financial need to. Well, if it's hard for you or your marriage, that makes great television -- and that's what the producers want. If my wife was gone days or weeks at a time, I would be going berserk without any help ... and we don't have any assistants or nannies or babysitters or PAs like the Gosselins do! They're playing right into the producers' hands.

Jon also says, "I didn't choose this -- it was chosen for me." What, Jon? You didn't sign on the dotted line? You didn't agree to be in a reality show? Who "chose" this for you, then? Take some responsibility for your actions. You agreed to be in a reality show where cameras follow you and your kids around twenty-four hours a day. No one else chose that for you. No one forced you to sign the contract. YOU accepted the free hair plugs. Your wife accepted the free tummy tuck. You stood in line for freebies with your hands out, accepting all the "good" parts of fame, but now that you have to experience the "bad" parts of fame, you're crying and whining about it.

Jon, you said you did the show to document your kids' lives. If that's your goal, get a Handicam and start it rolling like normal people do! You also said you worry your kids are going to Google you when they get older. If that's true, you better think about everything you do or say, and be able to hold your head high. When they look at the line "I didn't choose this life," you better be able to explain that to them.

Jon: Give back all the free stuff, give back the house, fire all the help, and THEN be a stay-at-home dad without all the luxuries that you're being offered. That's a show I'd actually want to watch.

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MrsB May 30, 2009, 8:44 PM

I think that Jon is like most men after marriage. The marriage is about the husband and wife and deferring to the husband. then when the children start coming along, the husband starts to feel left out and creates this scenario in his mind that the wife is more interested in the children than him. Well, wtf, do children take care of themselves? No they do not. Doesn’t the wife deserve equal help with child rearing, cooking, cleaning, paying bills, shopping for clothes, feeding the dog and getting him to the vet and all the thousands of cleanups around the house and the refereeing of kiddy fights and crying jags? these two should have NEVER had so many kids. she is overwhelmed and now he is free to go hook up with his next woman and leave Kate to do all the child rearing on her own. At least she won’t have a cybaby husband to deal with. She should put the kids in day care to give herself a break and some of her personal life back that she gave up to marry Jon and have his children. The woman always comes out behind the 8-ball in marriage.

Kelly May 31, 2009, 3:22 PM

what ever. May 31, 2009, 4:09 PM

I really think that NONE of us REALLY know exactly what’s going on except for Jon and Kate themselves. We’ll NEVER know exactly what’s going on-ever. It’s hard to judge people who yes, have made mistakes from what we hear and see on TV, but we ALL make mistakes. I am NOT agreeing with anyone-especially Jon who I truly believe made some really bad judgement calls on his behalf, but in reality it takes THREE in a marriage, not one. First of all being a huge believer in natural conception, they should have thought this through before even thinking about artificial incemination and the fact that there is a GREAT possibility for multiples after already having multiples from the same procedure. So, they, in a way, were open to the idea of having this many children at once (at least they should have thought it through). Secondly, they both chose the life they are going down right now and so they are the ones that have to deal with the concequences that come with ‘fame’. I don’t think it’s our place to judge them since we don’t know fully what’s going on, only what the media is choosing to show us. I don’t agree with what Jon has done at all and I do agree that Kate could chill out a bit more, but what do you expect from a mom who has a household under control and in a routine with 8 kids, 6 of which are the same age?

Hmm May 31, 2009, 10:23 PM

If you ask me it took two parents to screw these kids up. Stop blaming one or the other when they were both there. They both signed the stupid contract and they are both greedy. God. The only side anyone should be on is the children’s side. They are the ones who will truly suffer when this all goes to hell. Whether or not this is some publicity stunt. It is still causing damage. Jon & Kate do not abuse their children and they do love them. It may have all started from a good place but that is not where it will end. Unfortunately. By the way, they chose this life. He is not a true stay at home dad, I’m sorry. If this is real, this family is in need of some serious counseling.

Hmm again May 31, 2009, 10:31 PM

By the way any closed-minded person who believes a man cannot raise children. Deserves a dead-beat man around. I’m sorry but you know what. Women have fought so hard for this kind of progress. It’s about time men started doing their fair share. It took two to make those kids and each parent is responsible for them. No if, ands or buts about it. Have some self respect. By the way, Jon’s self pity is no excuse for his ‘check-out’ behavior. These two are not presenting a united front which is what it takes when both parents are involved. I can’t wait for this drama to end.

Anonymous June 1, 2009, 12:21 AM

Jon is a weenie

Laura June 1, 2009, 9:08 AM

Lets don’t forget Kate in this! I thought my mother was controlling over my Dad growng up- Kate takes the cake. She is an extremely GREEDY person and what is for her kids? When they got the new house I remember he saying”I needed this” That is not all about the kids-and now the house that “she” needed-=she is never in it. Yes Jon needs breaks - Nanny’s whatever but they both need to truley think about what they are doing it for and to their kids.

MomMom G June 1, 2009, 3:32 PM


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Tony June 2, 2009, 3:48 AM

Unless you have walked in his shoes, it is unfair to judge him. The media blows everyting out of proportion by the way.

Your bio says you’ve got two kids, he’s got 8. It doesn’t sound like you have the life experience to know what his world is like. Just sayin’

mo June 2, 2009, 8:10 AM

Don’t even watch the show specifically for all those reasons. Maybe the children will grow up to be just as greedy and unaffected!! To the rest of the moms and dads out there be careful one of those eight might fall in love with one of your children…then what?

Army Mom x's 2 June 2, 2009, 9:15 AM

To Erika what world do you live in? Not the real one judging by your post! I can not believe that you think so low of a man who would be a stay at home father!! Being a parent is the most rewarding job there is with no money! A Man can still be the Head of the house hold and be a STAY AT HOME DAD!! I pitty your husband because in my opinion you do not think very highly of him,God forbid if he should loose his job in these trying times! To Jay,you made some great points!!

Queen of the Click June 2, 2009, 11:06 AM

Very well said. Maybe someone should send a copy to Jon.

I feel sorry for Kate - you can see what pain she is going through over thisjk

Puerto Rico June 2, 2009, 7:11 PM

Ok! I agree with everyone’s comments, but that doesn’t give him the right to be unfaithful. No matter how stressful the situation is.


shelbi June 5, 2009, 2:16 PM

i love you guys

Chris June 16, 2009, 10:27 AM

Jay is 100% right. Whether or not Jon and Kate are good parents (I say not), the producers are the winners. Look at all of the discussion that show has generated! I have never seen the program, but I know who these people are. Something is wrong with that. I can appreciate financial difficulties forcing people to make decisions they don’t want to make, but it seems to me that these folks are using financial need as an excuse to justify their behavior, which is disgraceful, especially when you consider those in REAL financial need in our society.

rob July 15, 2009, 12:56 AM

right on good sir

barbie October 8, 2009, 1:45 PM

KATE decided jon would stay home with the kids so she could flit around in the spotlight (but yes, he did sign the contract to do the show-when he was working). kate has made all the major/and minor/ decisions all thru the marriage. jon quit trying to do things on his own when she kept correcting/ordering/demanding that he do it HER way (and he’s not a mind reader, so he waits for the dictator to say ‘how to’ ‘when to’ do things) He has always been shown to be the hands on parent, she sits or stands arms crossed while he followed her bidding. Until he had enough and then he ran. HER FAULT!

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