Quit lying, celebrity moms!
Briana Mordente Franklin: We've all heard a celebrity mom say during an interview (hello, Angelina!), "My first priority is being a mom" -- as they sit at their latest movie set. Why can't they just admit they like working and having something of their own, and enjoy the recognition they receive for their own achievements? Would that be so terrible? Because, let's face it, if your first priority is truly being a mom, you'd choose to stay at home with your kids full-time.
It seems all moms -- celebrity or not -- feel guilty about being working mothers or having lives of their own. You will never hear a mother say, "I live for me, not my kids ... After all, a happy mother makes for a happy child." That would sound selfish. What you do hear a mother say is, "My kids come first." But what they're really saying is, "I'm a good mom." For some reason, mothers think if they do put themselves first at times, they aren't. But perhaps we should be teaching our children that everyone's happiness is important. Because part of being a good mom is about being good to yourself, too.
Today's society is all about the children's happiness ... "What's best for the children," or "The children are our future ..." Yes, they are the future, and we want to make a good life for them and love them and care for them -- but not to the point where mothers forget they have a future, too. Society today seems to drive mothers crazy about their children and what they should be doing -- or not doing -- in order to be a good mother. It starts at pregnancy, with all the no-nos like no coffee or whether you should be coloring your hair or not, when our mothers did all those things and probably had a glass of wine or two because no one told them back then that they couldn't. I read somewhere that it's probably risky for a woman to even be alive while pregnant, because there are so many restrictions and worries they put on potential mothers these days that just about anything they do could be harmful to the fetus. Heck, walking down a flight of stairs could do you in! Of course, that was a tongue-in-cheek observation, but it makes a good point. Just how much of ourselves and our lives will we give up for "the children"?
Love your children unconditionally. Be there for your children. But don't make them your whole life -- for your own good, and, truly, for theirs too.