One mom is losing her mind over boy-obsessed girls.
Homeschool Mom: You would think it was 1969 and I had one of the Beatles living under my roof the way girls behave towards my son. I don't think it is because my son is some incredible Adonis either, although he is darling to me. I think girls are completely brainwashed into believing that their self-worth is tied to their ability to attract and bag boys.
Girls are a small blip on my son's radar right now, and one that is easily distracted by music, sports, and fun with his guy friends. In fact, he is homeschooled, so his ability to meet and greet with girls is severely curbed compared to most boys his age. But girls are interested in him. They get his number in clever ways and call the house giggling and carrying on like escapees from asylums in bad B movies. I have to tell them, "You may not speak to my son if you do not identify yourself respectfully and coherently to me, his mother." My husband, being the rational kind of guy he is, pointed out to me, "I wouldn't let some strange boy talk to my daughter, so why would I not protect my son the same way when a strange girl calls?" Exactly.
I have two girls and I have already told them, "If you act like gibbering goofballs around boys, they won't want to be your friends, and boys make great friends." They have plenty of good friends that are boys. They are victims, however, of the relentless pursuit of their brother. When girls try to enlist my ten year old, the pragmatist, she will say, "That's too bad he isn't allowed to like girls, yet." And he's not. Our rule is there will be no dating until the kid can drive and has a job; until then, he gets groups of friends with parental supervision.
I want my girls to concentrate on things that they love, like; dance, art, sports, and music. I would also like to teach them self-control, so if they are attracted to a young man, they can behave with the same level-headed, respectful behavior I expect from them in any situation. It is not cute to have girls out of control, embarrassing themselves and giving their sex a bad rep as goofballs. It is also not cute to allow young women to make unwanted phone calls to young men and to bother their families. I just wish more moms would pay attention to what their daughters were doing and take the stinking cell phones out of their hands. "Playing hard to get" may not be necessary, but at least "playing not desperate" would be nice.
Let's try to teach the young women of tomorrow that bagging the hottie is not the be-all/end-all of life. Having self-respect and dignity will do more for their future than a cute boyfriend.
|Homeschool Mom: Pam Heilman is a California Credentialed Teacher who once won some body lotion in a raffle at the Y. She is currently residing in Southern California with her husband Eric, and homeschools their three children.|