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PiscesGuilty Friday: Every Mom's Nightmare
We all think that the minute our children are born, we'll instantly connect with them and enjoy them. What if you didn't?
On Guilty Friday last week, we brought you a mom who confessed to waiting until the police were gone before leaving her kids in the car alone.
Well, this week, meet a woman who experienced every mom's worst nightmare.
What do you think? Would you, or have you, ever done something as drastic as this?
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Totally the case with me too. I was pretty ambivalent about being pregnant/having a child and my baby turned out to be a bit high strung. We didn’t get along at all until I went back to work and got a bit of a break from it all and I don’t think I really could say I loved her until she was about a year old.
What’s wrong with you people? Have you not heard of bonding? I would NOT WANT TO BE YOUR BABAY! I loved everyone of mine before they ever entered this world. You carry them for nine months, did you think you were just getting fat? They are a living being, how do think when they grow up, and learn that you did not love them when they babies, they will feel? Do you think they will say oh well thats ok! I don’t think so!!!!!!
sadeyes53,
It’s not a matter of being so stupid as to think I was “just fat”, nor was it a lack of trying, or understanding that bonding is necessary. It’s a matter of getting to know your baby and yourself as his/her mother that creates strong bonds between mother and child. Good for you if it happened right away. For some of us, it is more of a process and I would rather be my child, with a mother who is aware of the issue, than one who doesn’t even try. It isn’t a matter of not loving them as babies, I think we all have love for our babies, but need time to bond. However, I think you do more damage by villifying mothers who need more time to connect to their babies. Not everyone has the same process for bonding with their children and I would bet you any amount of money that mine are as loved and well-adjusted as any kids out there.
Interesting article. Enjoyable reading. There is one thing to submit about shirts.
I was one of those mothers who did not profess immediate and undying love to my sons when they are born. I took comfort in a line from the tv show “Frasier”. (and I paraphrase) “You don’t love your children when they are born, you fall in love with them” just like anyone else. You were probably so overwhelmed by the idea of twin boys that it wasn’t until they were older and had more individual personalities that you fell in love with them. Don’t blame yourself.