Welcome to Internet Dating 101 -- here are five rules that everyone should follow.
Bruce Sallan: It felt like a job, Internet dating, for me. And if you really want it to work, you have to treat it as a job. Like many sales jobs, it's about numbers and sublimating your ego. And, like the real world, the roles of men and women are quite similar. Men pursue, women respond (or not). And both sides have their challenges as a result.
I could write literally dozens of blogs on this subject and if the feedback on this one is good, I will write more.
But, to start, I'd like to offer some Internet dating rules, garnered from 3+ years of experience AND the ultimate success of meeting my wife online.
There's no order to these rules, but trust them, do them, and you might have success in this often frustrating world:
1. Don't give up.
2. Absolutely post at least one picture and be honest with it; don't post one that is years old and/or Photoshopped to death.
3. Don't lie about your age or weight (the truth will come out and then what?).
4. Limit your chatting and e-mailing to a minimum. If there's some connection, meet. And make that first meet-and-greet a coffee date, period! If it goes well, there's plenty of time for romantic dinners.
5. If he or she is over 35, never married, there's a reason. Use caution as this applies to both genders.
These first five rules are just the beginning of my Internet Dating Rules 101 course. If you want more, let me know. It worked for me; it can work for you. Be patient, be persistent, be creative, and don't give up. But, what do I know; I'm just a guy.
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|