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Marijuana Mamas!

Thursday, June 25, 2009
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Is pot the new pilates?

Gina Kaysen Fernandes: A new wave of reefer madness is sweeping suburbia -- but it's not just teenagers who are lighting up. Middle-aged, middle-class soccer moms are smoking pot ... a lot. These women aren't stoners: they're teachers, lawyers, and, perhaps, even your neighbor who prefers puffing a joint to sipping chardonnay.

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"Marijuana is the magic in my life that helps me unwind, stay sane, and have more energy," says Sonia, a 24-year-old mother from Los Angeles. Working full-time as a restaurant manager leaves Sonia feeling stressed out and drained at the end of the day. She smokes once or twice daily to relax. "I have a stressful job, it's something that helps me wind down so I don't take out my frustration on my husband or my child."

Sonia became a mother at the age of 22 and suffered from some depression. She turned to marijuana to help curb the baby blues. A doctor later diagnosed Sonia with anxiety and wrote her a prescription for the herbal remedy. Sonia gets her stash from a medicinal marijuana clinic and takes comfort in knowing the pot she smokes is legal and high quality.

Mary is a 37-year-old, self-employed mother in Seattle who smokes pot several times a week. "It is relaxing, fun, and once in a while I self-medicate for cramps or headaches," said Mary. She says she prefers smoking to drinking beer because it's easier on the body and has fewer calories. Mary buys her bags from a dealer, making it more risky because "there's still a real danger of being arrested," says Mary.

The website, Chikii.com, surveyed hundreds of women nationwide between the ages of 25 and 60 years old. Out of that group, 52% admitted to using marijuana at least ten times a year. 27% smoked between one and seven times a week. And 78% of those women knew someone who got high on a regular basis.

The results of recent surveys are no surprise to Allen St. Pierre, executive director of the National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws, or NORML. "These findings are indicative of women's willingness to admit to the social stigma that was so high in the 1970s and 80s," said St. Pierre.

Both women who shared their stories with momlogic say that many of their friends smoke weed. But while it seems "marijuana mamas" are everywhere, this silent majority prefers to stay in the shadows. "They think if they admit it, it makes them a bad mom," says Sonia, who believes the opposite is true. "It makes me a better mother. It clears my head and allows me to focus on my child." Mary says it's important to be a responsible smoker "by doing it mindfully, only when I have downtime."

Sonia has a 2-year-old and is a few years away from the dreaded drug talk. But she doesn't plan to hide her habit from her son. "I want to be honest, I don't want him to feel marijuana is an evil thing," said Sonia. Mary says she's very open about her drug use with her daughter, Sierra. "We talk about responsible use pretty often," says Mary. Both women say they never smoke in the house or in front of their children.

There's a lot of debate over how to talk to kids about using drugs without sounding like a hypocrite, especially if you're the one hitting the bong. Zero-tolerance proponents believe you must support abstinence only. But advocates say a more real-world approach is to discuss drug use in moderation. This method is detailed in a pamphlet called "Safety First: A Reality-Based Approach to Teens and Drugs," which is distributed by the California PTA.

This growing group of ganja smokers certainly has the attention of lawmakers. A renewed debate is heating up over legalizing (or at minimum, taxing the medicinal sales of) marijuana to cash in on this potential cash cow. According to NORML, marijuana remains the fourth largest cash crop in America, in spite of the estimated $10 billion that law enforcement spends annually to attempt to outlaw the plant. In California, marijuana is the number-one cash crop. Thirteen states have laws on the books that allow for medicinal use of marijuana. The most recent federal survey finds more than 100 million Americans have tried pot at some point, and more than 14 million used it in the past month. "I think a lot of moms are starting to loosen up," says Sonia.

Both of these moms support legalizing marijuana. "It will help our economy, help our state, and take away that stigma," said Sonia. Mary believes pot smoking should be about personal choice, not politics. "I'm an adult and I make life or death decisions every day. The drug war has killed lots of people; smoking pot hasn't killed anyone."

What do you think? Are these moms on the right track -- or are they whacked out on more than just weed?

Photos courtesy of Michael Johnson



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All of my kids smoked at one time or another, as I did when I was 14-15. They hid it and knew what they were doing was something to keep on the low. 1 became a heavy smoker and then moved onto heavier drugs and finally entered a rehab at 23. He married at 26 to a total pothead who grew up smoking with her Mom. She didn’t finish school, doesn’t work, has a 6 month old that she beleives she needs pot to take care of. Her, her Mom and brother still smoke together and have elimated everyone from their lives that doesn’t smoke. She doesn’t cook hardly cleans and has barely bonded with the baby. But she thinks she’s the greatest and complains about everyone that doesn’t get high! I suspect she even robbed her own change jar to buy it. Pot before baby, food, cloths, utilities. If you talk to her she sounds just like most of these pot Momma’s. She thinks of herself as a social, daily pot smoker. I think of her as a total stoner. My Grandson will be just like them and it kills me.
- Motherof4
Posted 06/29/09 10:07 AM
 
Keep smoking dope idiots…you’ll die quicker than someone who smokes 3 pack of cigarettes a day. Your kids will be real happy with no mom when their only 13 yrs old.
- Anonymous
Posted 06/29/09 10:07 AM
 
Do not really like pot but it should be legalized. Yes it is carcinogenic, probably two times worse than cigarettes, but if you tax it enough should help pay for Medicare. Also, the hemp plant is one of the most useful of all plants. You should read up on its uses. It is quite an amazing plant.
- Mike
Posted 06/29/09 10:09 AM
 
This is CRAZY!! It’s illegal for a reason!! Time for you all to grow up and have some self control!! There are many other options to help with the problems you all have listed that are LEGAL!!!! I’m a mom of 3 and never once have I thought of turning to an illegal drug of any kind to help me unwind or deal with my children and husband!!! You are all very irresponsible parents and BAD role models for your children!! Time to grow up and take responsibility for your lifestyle, after all it is what you have made it!! Try doing this like normal people…NOT HIGH ON DRUGS!!
- Shavonne
Posted 06/29/09 10:09 AM
 
Back again. This issue really does make me mad. Because, there never was an drop of pain from the smmmoking. But all hell broke lose when it came to alcohol. WHY, does our country allow this…alcohol!!! But denies us our choose to smoke.
- Fairmount, In
Posted 06/29/09 10:10 AM
 
I love how posters are stating that they’ve been smoking pot for 17, 20, 35 years and find there’s nothing wrong with it. Duh! That’s the problem! You can’t stop! YOU HAVE A PROBLEM! Stop making excuses and get some help! And its pathetic that you mothers have to get high to take care of your children! And those who are comparing legalizing alcohol to legalizing pot - well all those statistics about alcohol deaths will certainly start to apply with pot! It will happen!
- Hmmmm
Posted 06/29/09 10:10 AM
 
Wrote her a prescription for anxiety- what a joke. Like being paranoid and stoned is going to help that.
- Benny Hill
Posted 06/29/09 10:10 AM
 
I smoked everyday for over 30 years. Only sfter work and time with our child, when we were in bed watching TV. It helped me relax and sleep soundly. I would never drive after smoking, treated it like alchohol. I always considered myself a smart woman and realized that if you do smoke (or drink) there are rules.
- Anonymous
Posted 06/29/09 10:12 AM
 
I agree that smoking takes the edge off after a bad day @ the office.In fact when I come home in a bad frame of mind, my husband who doesn’t smoke. Often asks me to go to my sercret place to do so. When I get back, I am a totally differant person. Someone, I can even live with. It is better then drinking because I never wake up with a hangover from smoking. I am also way more spiritual after smoking. Conversations with my children are more focused on them. What they think about things prompts me to probe futher while conversing with them. Letting me get a better prospective on what goes on inside thier minds and thier lives. I often have conversations with my children about marijuana and why in moderation it is better then drinking. One of them gets it, the younger one is against the thought of it. I am waiting until they are a little older to actually tell them that I do smoke once in awhile.
- Carolyn
Posted 06/29/09 10:13 AM
 
Maybe this is why so many kids today are below average. Maybe this is why the divorce rate is so high? If mommy is high all the time she certainly cannot focus because she is ‘relaxed’. Maybe this is why so many kids are playing so many hours of video games because mommy needs to ‘unwind’. Women control the family. If the woman is not in control then the husband will not be happy. If the woman is not in control the kids will not be able to be controlled.
- Paul
Posted 06/29/09 10:14 AM
 
I have smoked marijuana for many. many years and have managed to remain an upstanding member of society who has always held down a full-time job, kept a clean home, taken care of all my responsibilities and raised 2 A- student sons. I couldn’t have done it without my “mothers little helper” and I’m so happy neither of my full grown sons ever became enamored with hard liquor because they never saw it in my home on a regular basis. I always hid the fact I smoked and never drive or do it in the presence of my kids and only partake when my responsibilities for the day are fulfilled. Like anything, it’s all about doing it responsibly. When my sons, now aged 22 & 25 asked me years ago if I did any drugs, I was honest with them about smoking pot and guess what? They didn’t run out and get a drug habit because of it - That has a lot to do with their upbringing and having great role models in their lives, which my husband and I take credit for, marijuana smoking and all. It helped them because I was a better more calm mother raising them. I would rather spot medicate when feeling really stressed out as opposed to having to take anti-anxiety drugs on a regular basis. Yes, I know it’s illegal, but it shouldn’t be, and makes no sense when there are much more dangerous drugs out there that are legal. So all in all, pot improves my life by taking away the effects of stress that would probably kill me in the long run and I’ve managed, like many others in my position, to raise a wonderful family and engage in a successful life.
- Anonymous Mary Jane
Posted 06/29/09 10:15 AM
 
I AM GLAD I AM THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT JUST DOES NOT CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OR DO i FEEL MORE PEOPLE OUGHT TO BE THAT WAY HUH, YOU THINK? I am 50 and have seen this played out for years and all I can say is good for pot smoking moms and screw you if you do not like it or any other blab you may have. I can bust any of your lies about pot in half so bring on your lies and hate and all that infimite knowledge you drunkards have
- Brad`
Posted 06/29/09 10:16 AM
 
Very pathetic! I’ve known moms like these and a lot of them let their kids know what they do to help them with any guilt they might have. They say there’s nothing wrong with it and it should be legalized only to rationalize breaking the law and putting something hazerdous in their body. How very sad and selfish! These moms should not be moms! I would not want my dr., cab driver, children’s teacher to be using this! Where is the outrage for the moral ambiguity? Where?!!! Disgusted with where people are going. Susan
- Susan
Posted 06/29/09 10:16 AM
 
I’m a Senior Citizen. Did I smoke pot..yes. Would I again. Absolutely. The only reason I don’t now is because of drug testing at work (which I believe is an infringement of the Fifth Amendment - but I need to work). Once I’m retired (if ever) I plan to sit in a rocker, on my front porch and toke as much as I want. The government has too much control over our own persons. If I want to smoke, and I’m not hurting anyone else, then I should be able to smoke. Someone on this blog mentioned that it’s illegal and compared it to robbing a bank…get real. Look at history, at one time, drinking was illegal..the government realized it made a mistake. It is NOT infallable. Pot should be legalized and controlled via ATF and let’s move on to bigger issues: Global warming, pollution, corruption by our elected leaders, mass murder, etc. etc.
- Carol
Posted 06/29/09 10:17 AM
 
Nay Sayers…Please POST the Science Behind your Objections for using Cannabis. Here, this is something you All can relate to…I find it to be filled with lies! But apparently it is right up your alley! http://www.csdp.org/publicservice/anslinger.htm
- FredaMae
Posted 06/29/09 10:20 AM
 
Oh yeah pot isn’t hurting anyone - follow the money that you shell out for your addiction and see where its REALLY going. If you are a responsible American you would think twice about what you’re doing once you see what you are funding. I bet most of you are very young mothers who view this as a novelty and don’t see the other side of it. No one has told you any different. The only information you get is from other fellow potheads. White collar blue collar whatever collar world you live in you are a pothead! Again, see if you can stop for any period of time and see if you can raise your families or make it thru a day without getting high. You are potaholics just like there are alcoholics. If it was legal the problem would only get worse.
- ST
Posted 06/29/09 10:21 AM
 
Couple of things, pot does NOT have addictive properties like alcohol and cigarettes. It is however habit forming. Smoke it enough and yes it will become a habit, just like biting your nails only with a risk of cancer. Second, smoking one joint is comparable to smoking two packs of cigarettes, not three. I have not heard the results of using a bong. My guess is it is better than a joint due to the filtration properties of water. But who knows?
- Mike
Posted 06/29/09 10:22 AM
 
Sorry, but illegal is illegal. Breaking the law, whether you agree with it or not, isn’t at all cool or okay. These women are setting horrible examples for their children and I can’t imagine what rules their kids will one day break - then look mom dead in the eye and dare her to say anything. These women need to be stronger and stand on their own feet - if you create your own strength, you won’t need a crutch. They’re basically admitting,”I’m weak and incapable of dealing with life on my own.” That makes me feel kind of sorry for them, actually. Countless women before them have dealt with the pressures of raising families and working and did it on their own, without a crutch. Then again, countless women before them were stronger.
- Starbucks
Posted 06/29/09 10:24 AM
 
Pamela. Laws~>> like when women couldn’t vote? and that was a law at one time.. TIMES changes w/ our society and sometimes our laws are a tad behind the growth of our society changes.. that is why sometimes WE have to change LAWS.. if not we would still be wearing swimsuits down to Our ankles!
- sandy
Posted 06/29/09 10:24 AM
 
you will never see a man smoke a joint and go home and beat his wife
- kent keith
Posted 06/29/09 10:24 AM

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