Rachel Sarah: Oh dearest Jennifer ...
I recently read that an insider told the Chicago Sun-Times that you and your beau, Jamie Kennedy, were shopping for an engagement ring. How sweet! You and your Ghost Whisperer co-star have really hit it off, since your split from fiancé Ross McCall late last year.
This week, however, you've quelled the wedding speculation. But apparently, you did say that "By this time next year, if we're not planning something, then there's a situation."
Yikes. I recently learned that pressuring a man to commit does not work.
But, Jennifer, I do get it.
Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't dare compare myself to you, but I know what it's like to want some public affirmation that you're loved.
I recently pressured my new beau to show me some love on Facebook -- as in, I asked him to publicly declare that we're "In a Relationship." And honey, I learned firsthand that requiring a guy to commit in public just doesn't work.
He declined, saying that he's private -- and our love life is personal, not Facebook material. (Yes, I do realize that you can select "In a Relationship" but not list the other person. That way, he'd get his privacy, and I'd feel good about declaring it.) Still, we had a good three-day quarrel because I couldn't see why he wouldn't want to make us public.
As women, don't we all want to broadcast to the world that we're loved?
At the end of the day, Jennifer, however, it's not about an engagement ring or your Facebook status. It's about how you treat each other.
I urge you to keep your I-want-to-get-married talk behind closed doors. Are you all with me here?
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking" blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and co-founded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|