twitter facebook stumble upon rss

Just a Guy Handling Role Reversal

sign up for the momlogic newsletter Tweet This

Who does what and what we expect from each other is often murkier than depicted in the July issue of "O."

man in apron holding wine

Being the stay-at-home dad is supposedly accepted in our diverse and accepting culture. But the reality is different, as this dad has experienced, especially when introducing a new woman, my new wife, into the family. Who does what and what we expect from each other is often murkier than depicted in the July issue of "O."

In a nutshell, she goes to work; I stay home with the boys. I take them to school and deal with all their extra-curricular activities. I carry the larger load of discipline issues, and I do the majority of the shopping. She takes care of the house and does most of the cooking and cleaning. I'm the biological parent; she's the step. She teaches them manners; I teach them how to burp louder.

Should I be waiting, drink in hand, apron around my waist, to greet her after a long, hard day at work? Should she be interested in the minutia of how much I saved at Ralph's, using coupons, after she has just driven 90 minutes in traffic after a frustrating day in real estate ('nuff said about her career and its difficulties nowadays)?

We struggle. And, we have a teenager. He has said "You're not my mother," as every kid says to a stepparent at one point or another. That was instantly stopped, but it's still confusing to him after his biological mother abandoned my boys completely. Our younger one, desperate for a mother in his life, worships at the altar of my new wife.

Role reversal? Yeah, to the max. Working it out is our daily challenge. But, what do I know; I'm just a guy.

next: Nanny Diaries: CPR is a Must!
42 comments so far | Post a comment now
faxless payday loans December 25, 2010, 6:50 PM

Hey! Just wanted to go out of a comment. I must say i enjoyed reading this article. Continue the awesome effort.

fast cash advance December 25, 2010, 7:14 PM

Appreciate your making the effort to debate this, I am strongly concerning this and love learning read more about this topic. Whenever possible, as you gain expertise, would you mind updating your site with extra information? It is quite great for me.

Back to top >>