There are things to hate in this world, like terrorists, rapists, serial murderers, taxes, Britney Spears, and Renée Zellweger, but an item of food, a less-than-terrific teacher?
Bruce Sallan: "I HATE it," or "I HATE my teacher," or "I HATE that restaurant." Sound familiar? When my younger son uses that word or complains and whines as much as he and his older brother do, I find myself going nuts on them. "You HATE" such and such? There are things to hate in this world, like terrorists, rapists, serial murderers, taxes, Britney Spears, and Renée Zellweger, but an item of food, a less-than-terrific teacher?
This falls under the category of spoiled rotten. I must've done something to encourage this behavior, and my new wife always gives me "the look" when they act that way; the look that says, "Well, where do you think they got it from?" I then give her the look that says, "Bug off," and we go on to a fight from there. Okay, just kidding. Sort of.
But, the general condition of our kids complaining and whining is out of control, given how terrific they have it, how many things they have, places they go, and the ease of their life in spite of the few chores they have and the homework they get in school. Let's save "HATE" for something and someone that truly deserves it.
I'm pretty confident about what to do in most situations, but I must admit that I'm somewhat at a loss when it comes to the amount of complaining. It's not grounds for punishment, but how should I instill in them more gratitude in general, and maybe just a little appreciation for all we have vs. what we might not have at a given moment? I guess I don't have a clue, 'cause I'm just a guy.
|Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, full-time, now 13 and 16. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and now, newly remarried, in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW fan page at Facebook. To contact Bruce, visit his new website brucesallan.com.|