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Does 'More to Love' Exploit or Empower?

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On the new show "More to Love," a 300-pound bachelor searches for love amongst a group of "real" women. Will you watch?

More to Love

Momlogic's Talitha: "More to Love" premieres tonight. Though the show's purpose is to prove that love comes in all shapes and sizes, the fact that they call the overweight contestants "real" is not just annoying, but problematic. First of all, let's address the fact that though the show claims to be focused on the "inside not the outside," its entire premise is about weight! That's its first lie.

Secondly, let's face the facts: The women on the show are overweight women and should be called overweight women -- not "real women." Isn't every woman a REAL woman? Is a woman who is a size 8 not "real," just like a woman twice her size? They are real, a thin person is real, a short person is real -- we are all "REAL."

Third, the show claims that these plus-sized women have a hard time finding love. As if it's not hard for everyone else, too! Ever watched "The Bachelor"? Thirty gorgeous women competing for one guy? Pretty women have a hard time because guys only like them for their looks. Smart and successful women have a hard time because guys are intimidated by them, and older women have a hard time because of their age. We've all got it rough!

Lastly, the women on this show all have to be a size 14 and up -- and many are technically obese. It might sting, but it's true. Yes, they deserve love. But why are overweight people segregated to their own show? Is it going to turn into some freak show that only exploits them?

I'm worried this show helps perpetuate the notion that obesity has become the norm. More and more shows focusing on how fat this country is are emerging, from "The Biggest Loser" to "Dance Your Ass Off." America is fat. And it's nothing to brag about, and certainly it should not be considered normal, or "real."

Does "More to Love" exploit or empower? Tune in tonight to find out.

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Tara July 28, 2009, 9:22 PM


I’ve only watched 15 minutes, and it’s not empowering at all. I’m so disgusted. I’m fairly small, and I actually prefer to be with men of a larger stature, so apparently, according to fox, I don’t deserve love because I’m not a real person? Ahhhh…this show is going to flop so hard.

The fact that they feel the need to post their weights, too? That’s just exploiting it. It’s terrible.

Marci July 28, 2009, 11:39 PM

Talitha and Tara,

No THANK YOU for your comments. Although the emphasis on the weight of the women on show is a turn off in my opinion I think it’s about time that women who more closely reflect the way most women in the U.S. look are given their ‘15-minutes of fame’.

As someone who is overweight, fat, or whatever term you want to use trying to find a date can sometimes be more difficult than it is for non-overweight women. Just because I am overweight does not mean I am not as intelligent, beautiful, well mannered, giving, etc than someone who weighs less. Try having guys not want to go on a date with you without even seeing what you look like just because you have one physical quality that may not be “perfect”. Everyone may be attracted by certain physical qualities but letting that stop you from getting to know someone, that is being closed minded, but that is what many overweight women face all the time.

If you don’t like the show, don’t watch it but open your minds and accept people for who they are not how much they weigh.


M July 28, 2009, 11:50 PM

“But why are overweight people segregated to their own show?” Just to make a point, I don’t see too many fat women, over weight women, obese women or size fourteens on the Bachelor, slender women occupy that show. There is segregation on both shows, so what!

chris July 29, 2009, 8:06 AM

I agree with M. The “normal” reality show doesn’t have women of larger sizes because they are not considered attractive. I personally think that ALL reality shows should just be cancelled, the are a waste of time and brain cells.

Chatama McFarland July 29, 2009, 9:19 AM

THIS SHOW IS ABSOLUTELY PATHETIC! I am a plus size woman and I was thoroughly embarrassed. Unbelievably, I was very excited about the premise of the show. I tuned it, with my husband, to watch and was turned off from beginning to end. Were they not able to find confident plus size women? These women are seeking their self worth from a man telling them their beautiful….Well their father should have did that, and if he didn’t then they need to get up every morning, look in the mirror, and tell themselves. They cried allllll night long, they talked about food allllll night long, they even took it personal when they were eliminated. What are we telling are young girls who happen to be slightly overweight? Are we trying to tell them that they will be single for the rest of their lives unless a 300 lb man picks them out of a group of other women with no confidence, feeling sorry for themselves? My thoughts are that this show was produced my some skinny woman whose man left her for a plus size woman and she’s trying to embarrass the crap out of them all. This show needs to be canceled or totally revamped.

Barb July 29, 2009, 9:23 AM

Yes, M and Chris, I wanted to say the same thing—you’ll never find a size 14 woman on The Bachelor. Or Big Brother, or I Survived a Japanese Game Show, or… you get my point. I’m not saying being obese is necessarily “good” but it’s a reality, and those of us who may be a size 14 want to find love, too, or even just play on a hokey show. It’s offensive that the only shows bigger women can be on are strictly for overweight people. But men? Any old fatty guy can be on any of those shows.

A July 29, 2009, 9:33 AM

I was actually looking forward to the show because I thought finally a show with women on it that deserve their time to shine also. BUT within the first 10 minutes I was turned off. WHY on earth do they have to show there height and WEIGHT in the corner of the screen !!!! You NEVER see that on the bachelor. The entire show is focused on how heavy these women are not on if they can find love or not. Its degrading to have there weight displayed on TV like that.

anonymous July 29, 2009, 9:57 AM

Marci, if guys aren’t talking to you because of how you look, do you really want to date that guy, he’s shallow. I’m not overweight myself (but I’m not skinny either), but I won’t date a guy who is judgmental of others whether it be race, religion or body shape, I find that a turn-off I don’t care how hot they are or how much they compliment me. I think this is a bad idea. It’s just helping solidify the idea that you can only date people of similar size. Skinny with skinny and overweight with overweight. All these so-called dating shows should be taken off the air.

J July 29, 2009, 12:17 PM

Yay, Fox. You not only tried to attempt to make spectacles of overweight women, you came through with flying colors! Since when do fat women only like fat men? Since when do fat women only talk about food 24/7? Since when do fat women not have other interests than eating? My God, just because they have extra pounds it doesn’t mean they should be reduced to nothing more than their weight and height. So, so, so disappointed.

Sharon July 29, 2009, 12:30 PM

My feeling is the women on this show need therapy and not a date. The air of desperation was reek. For most of my adult life, I’ve been a size 12 - 14 and it never stopped me from dating. Confidence and strong sense of self attracts others whether you are 120lbs or 240lbs.
The other frightful thing was displaying the weight - does that matter?
There was a whole lot of crying and general negativity which I why I won’t watch this show again.

Elena July 29, 2009, 3:54 PM

I was absolutely embarassed by “More To Love”. I am an avid “So You Think You Can Dance” watcher (and former competitive tap dancer) and was outraged even from seeing PREVIEWS of it.

I was a size 6 my entire life until I hit my mid-twenties. I am now a size 14 and NEVER EVER had a problem finding a date, having a boyfriend, or being the girl that guys overlooked when she was with her size 2 friends. EVER.

What disgusted me first of all was the fact the WEIGHT of these women were displayed on the screen. Why? What does it matter if the girl was 125 or 225?

And could the producers done a better job at finding a more pathetic group of people? I’d love to know who their so-called “skinny friends” are. Do these women not have friends of all shapes and sizes who encourage them to LOVE WHO THEY ARE?

It made me so sad to see these women crying over the fact they’ve never had a date or never had a ‘real kiss’. Guess what ladies? Guys love CONFIDENCE. If you are 100 pounds and NOT CONFIDENT, NOBODY WILL DATE YOU. If you’re 200 pounds and you love who you are, and you love the people around you, and you’re confident and comfortable you WILL find a date.

I doubt I will ever watch this show again!

Bree July 30, 2009, 9:12 AM

I think the point of shows like this is to say fat people should have the same things as thin ones. How many big women do you see on shows like the bachelor? There is a problem with obesity but there is also a problem with the fact that people think thin equals healthy.

nona July 30, 2009, 6:03 PM

The fact that they use diamond rings instead of roses like all the other shows is totally embarrassing and exploitive of these lonely women.

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