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MySpace Victim's Mom Seeks Justice

Wednesday, July 8, 2009
filed under: family

Tina Meier talks to momlogic.

myspace suicide mom tina meier with photos of megan meier

Last week, a federal judge tentatively threw out the convictions of Missouri mom Lori Drew, who had been charged with fraud in connection with a fake MySpace page targeting her 13-year-old neighbor, Megan Meier. Megan Meier later committed suicide.

Megan's mom, Tina Meier, talks to momlogic about this shocking ruling.

momlogic: When did you find out about the judge's decision, and what was your reaction?

Tina Meier: The decision came down on Thursday, July 2nd. I feel aggravation and disappointment. I truly feel that the message the judge is sending out is a bad one. It's stating that if we as individuals use the Internet and don't read the terms of service, we can still make a false profile, harass someone, impersonate someone, and do whatever we want ... and if something happens, we are not held liable because we didn't read the terms of service. This is a horrible message to be sending sexual predators, husbands, wives, exes, and anyone who wants to cause harm or get revenge on someone else. Now, what I am doing with the Megan Meier Foundation is asking anyone who disagrees with the judge's decision to please contact the judge's court clerk and let him know why you disagree. The judge's decision is not 100% until it's in writing. I am not sure when that will be, so I am asking people to write him as soon as possible. The AP did an article right after the decision and they did an online survey asking how many people agreed with the ruling. Over 90,000 people clicked on the survey and over 89% disagreed. These are people who use the Internet. We need to stand up and protect our children. This is one step towards asking the judge to do something positive and set a precedent.

ML: Where will you go from here?

Tina: I am fighting to let the judge know there are people out there who disagree with his ruling. If he doesn't read the letters or listen, then there is nothing more I can do, but we need to get our voices heard. The jury found Lori Drew guilty, but he threw out the decision and now she goes free. Right now, the decision is still tentative until it's in writing, which is again why I am asking people to write the judge as soon as possible.

I can't let this decision stop the course I am on. I am going to continue to get out there. There are two components. The first is legislative. There is a federal bill out there that has been proposed by Congresswoman Linda Sanchez in California. We need a law that will state if you use the Internet to harm or harass someone, you need to be held accountable -- just like when you drink and drive and kill an innocent family on the road, you need to be held responsible. On the federal level, it will cover everyone, and not just go state by state. The second component is to get into the schools and continue to talk and educate the kids, parents, educators, etc. We need kids to understand the effects this has on others, when they get into arguments or harass each other online. I want to show them real life stories of how people have taken their lives when this could have been prevented.

Do you think the judge's decision should be overruled? Comment below.


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the judge is wrong wrong wrong. bullying is wrong in any form. and that woman need to pay for what she did.
- Anonymous
Posted 07/07/09 02:16 PM
 
Sue this woman for everything she or her family will ever own. There are plenty of Lawyers that will take the case on a contignecy basis. Everything that family will ever own.
- Wyn
Posted 07/07/09 02:16 PM
 
What is the judges court clerk phone number?
- Rob
Posted 07/07/09 02:16 PM
 
In theory, Lori Drew is a responsible adult who knew right from wrong yet made a conscious choice to harm this girl. I don’t see a great difference between what she did—getting online and posing as someone else to get at a child—and what pedophiles do. So when another case of an online predator comes before this judge will they get away with it as well?
- anon
Posted 07/07/09 02:17 PM
 
While this is a horrific tradgedy, and it is every parent’s nightmare to have to bury their child, the sentencing was fair and just. The “perpetrator” is not, and should not be responsible for the mental imbalance this teenager had and of which the parents had to have been aware. A teenager who is emotionally stable, and who has a healthy home environment would surely have been devastated and embarrassed by the cruel game, however, a healthy child would not have killed herself. The mother is denying the reality of the situation and looking to the defendant as a scapegoat. It was the parent’s responsibility to monitor their daughter and to teach her to respect and obey rules and boundaries. They helped her circumvent a boundary. They are responsible more so than the defendant.
- Anna
Posted 07/07/09 02:17 PM
 
I also firmly believe that there should be some type of punishment for this crime. That child was beautiful and she had her whole life ahead of her. Her parents no only lost her, but lost their future grandchildren as well. Adults need to stop being so childish and ignorant and they need to understand that if you do something this STUPID then you deserve to spend some time in prison to think about what you have done to the family that is left behind to deal with the pain every day for the rest of their lives.
- rainbowlover
Posted 07/07/09 02:18 PM
 
Lori Drew is a woman who should lose her parenting rights. How could you impersonate a teenage boy to play with a girl’s emotions? What sort of person does that? Hold Lori Drew accountable and let her be a lesson- do NOT mess with our children.
- Angelique
Posted 07/07/09 02:18 PM
 
i agree with rick and jack… the girl obviously had problems… people shouldnt get jail sentences for suicides? u could blame the suicide on anyone…maybe?
- alex
Posted 07/07/09 02:18 PM
 
that woman is truly evil to take advantage of an impressionable teen. may hell have a special place for her.
- paul macayza
Posted 07/07/09 02:18 PM
 
no mater what parents do to control what their kids do on the computers, there is NO way to stop it. i am 20 years old and growing up i wasnt always a llowed on the computer, but i always had friends that were a llowed, public librarys and random places that i COULD get on myspace even if my parents blocked it. it sucks to say but there will always be a way for kids to find a place for the internet. and ways to get around parents rules. SO therefore i would not blame megans mom, her supervision over megans internet access can only come to an extent. Lori should face some sort of punishment on a more serious level. this is a mother for christ sake she is setting a horrible example for all children out there now thinking they can get away with this stuff with a slight slap on the wrist. that was so immature and childish of her and i hope she gets reminded of it the rest of her life.
- Anonymous
Posted 07/07/09 02:19 PM
 
Definetly this woman should BURN in hell, but…..we are ALL or should be held accountable and responsible. What this woman did by lying, by impersonating, by misleading this teenage girl is INexcusable to say the least BUT….again she did not put the weapon in the hand of this young lady to commit suicide. Further, shouldn’t parents be held accountable for what their kids do on the Internet, no different than giving them the keys to a car? I feel this Mom’s loss, I am a grandma, but I also feel you can’t just go around blaming producers of shows, artists of music, sicko’s on the Internet for what YOUR children end up doing. AS PARENTS you all NEED to apply TOUGH LOVE and educate, teach your children to NOT be vulnerable. Sorry but that is the way I raised my children and all the ones who found their way to our home as runaways, troubled or thrown out discarded and today they are ALL STRONG.
- Grandma
Posted 07/07/09 02:19 PM
 
YES YES, EVERYONE SHOULD BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS. NO PERSON SHOULD EVER HARM ANOTHER, ESPECIALLY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT AN EQUAL. THAT QUALIFIES FOR “BULLY” & IS EVEN LOWER !!!! NO LAME EXCUSES ALLOWED !!!!!
- Holly Marcyoniak
Posted 07/07/09 02:19 PM
 
THIS SOULD HAVE BEEN IN JAIL.sHES A MIND KILLER
- lizzy
Posted 07/07/09 02:19 PM
 
The point people are missing here is that this woman made an effort to hurt a young girl.. It didn`t matter what instrument she used.. internet or other tool.She should be held to some accountability.
- Cornfed
Posted 07/07/09 02:19 PM
 
I am so saddened by this. My daughter was relentlessly harassed via the Internet during her junior year of high school. The school said they couldn’t do anything about it, so the girls continued to humiliate her for the rest of the school/world to see. It hurt her emotionally so much that we switched her to another school. Recently a local boy was brutally sexually harmed on a school bus on the way to a sports event (hazed), and the coaches ignored it. The judge in the small town dismissed the case against the coaches based on them saying that doing nothing doesn’t make them guilty of anything! What kind of a message are they sending to our kids? No one will protect them? Not to mention the bullies are allowed to get away with it, most likely to go do it to someone else!
- catelynnw3
Posted 07/07/09 02:19 PM
 
I understand why the judge made his decision because Megan also violated the terms of service being underage. However, Megan didn’t do it with the motive to commit criminal acts. If this had been done to another adult Lori Drew would have been arrested immediately. As a teenager, I am aware that I do not have the same protection under the laws as an adult has and the message the judge is sending is a scary one. Bullying someone to death is the same as if Lori Drew physically committed this crime and she should be punished accordingly. Please let me know where to send the letters to the judge and I will post a link on my website, wwwcaticares.com. I will help in any way possible. God Bless, Cati
- Cati
Posted 07/07/09 02:20 PM
 
So what we r saying here is if a boy broke her heart & she killed herself then we should throw him in jail? Come on! What this lady did was WRONG but we can not put someone in jail for stupidity!! If Megan’s parents were the only ones w/the password then they should be held responsible for allowing her to talk to strangers (no matter what age they r) u NEVER really know who ur talking to unless u know the personally! If Megan got that attached to a boy she didn’t even meet than how would she have reacted to real heartache? As sad as it sounds she would have killed herself sooner or later! The little girl needed help & her parents only have themselves to blame for not seeing that! Sorry all! I do wish peace for everyone involved!
- Lisa Dangelo
Posted 07/07/09 02:20 PM
 
This would have never happened if kids weren’t so addicted to laziness. I mean when I was growing up we played outside half the day (PHYSICAL activities) like riding a bike, play basketball, or going to a friends house to play. Now a days parenting involves sticking your child in front of a computer, television set, or video game system and letting their children’s minds rot from this. I think the responsible party should be Myspace. Through HORRIBLE age checks, people are allowing minors to login to sites they are not old enough for. A credit card should be required as proof of age and it MUST have your name attached to it to prevent fraud. Simple things can be done to fix situations such as these so they no longer arise anymore. Will anyone go about this probably not. Its alot easier to point ones finger and blame someone than well PARENT so if you are not up to doing your job CLOSE YOUR LEGS!!!!
- jon
Posted 07/07/09 02:20 PM
 
i think that Lori Drew is absolutely sick. i myself am only a sixteen year old girl, and even i wouldn’t do something so disgusting to someone. even though i’m not a mom, i do have a niece, and i know that if anyone ever did that and she commited suicide because of it, i would do everything in my power to get that evil person some kind of punishment. it’s disgusting. if that woman has nothing better to do with her time than mess with teenage girls, she’s not only horrible, but she’s also pathetic. maybe jail time would do her some good.
- Bailey
Posted 07/07/09 02:21 PM
 
Where do we write to the judge?? Please someone post the address. We should all be writing now!!! Lori Drew is an adult/parent, she needs to be held accountable for her part in the death of that young girl. She is a cruel and heartless adult who played a huge role in this. She needs to be held accountable. I hope she has many sleepless nights knowing she is partly to blame!! She should have her parental rights taken away too!
- Lisa
Posted 07/07/09 02:21 PM

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