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MySpace Victim's Mom Seeks Justice

Wednesday, July 8, 2009
filed under: family

Tina Meier talks to momlogic.

myspace suicide mom tina meier with photos of megan meier

Last week, a federal judge tentatively threw out the convictions of Missouri mom Lori Drew, who had been charged with fraud in connection with a fake MySpace page targeting her 13-year-old neighbor, Megan Meier. Megan Meier later committed suicide.

Megan's mom, Tina Meier, talks to momlogic about this shocking ruling.

momlogic: When did you find out about the judge's decision, and what was your reaction?

Tina Meier: The decision came down on Thursday, July 2nd. I feel aggravation and disappointment. I truly feel that the message the judge is sending out is a bad one. It's stating that if we as individuals use the Internet and don't read the terms of service, we can still make a false profile, harass someone, impersonate someone, and do whatever we want ... and if something happens, we are not held liable because we didn't read the terms of service. This is a horrible message to be sending sexual predators, husbands, wives, exes, and anyone who wants to cause harm or get revenge on someone else. Now, what I am doing with the Megan Meier Foundation is asking anyone who disagrees with the judge's decision to please contact the judge's court clerk and let him know why you disagree. The judge's decision is not 100% until it's in writing. I am not sure when that will be, so I am asking people to write him as soon as possible. The AP did an article right after the decision and they did an online survey asking how many people agreed with the ruling. Over 90,000 people clicked on the survey and over 89% disagreed. These are people who use the Internet. We need to stand up and protect our children. This is one step towards asking the judge to do something positive and set a precedent.

ML: Where will you go from here?

Tina: I am fighting to let the judge know there are people out there who disagree with his ruling. If he doesn't read the letters or listen, then there is nothing more I can do, but we need to get our voices heard. The jury found Lori Drew guilty, but he threw out the decision and now she goes free. Right now, the decision is still tentative until it's in writing, which is again why I am asking people to write the judge as soon as possible.

I can't let this decision stop the course I am on. I am going to continue to get out there. There are two components. The first is legislative. There is a federal bill out there that has been proposed by Congresswoman Linda Sanchez in California. We need a law that will state if you use the Internet to harm or harass someone, you need to be held accountable -- just like when you drink and drive and kill an innocent family on the road, you need to be held responsible. On the federal level, it will cover everyone, and not just go state by state. The second component is to get into the schools and continue to talk and educate the kids, parents, educators, etc. We need kids to understand the effects this has on others, when they get into arguments or harass each other online. I want to show them real life stories of how people have taken their lives when this could have been prevented.

Do you think the judge's decision should be overruled? Comment below.


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I am so sorry the judge took it upon himself to set this crimal free. The jury spoke and that should end it.I hope she suffers until the day she dies. What goes around comes aroung. Look out bully.
- cecelia sribner
Posted 07/07/09 02:43 PM
 
Myspace has nothing to do with Lori Drew’s actions. If internet did not even exist, Lori has the mentality of the kind of person she has perceived to be. She would have taunted this little girl regardless because of some sort of anguish she had toward her. I wonder if the judge would have dropped the case if it was his loved one. He would have seen it in a whole different light. I will pray for all the parties involved…and Tina Meier, you are a very couragous woman, never give up in what you believe. I have 2 teenage daughters is why I take stories like this personal.
- Debbie
Posted 07/07/09 02:43 PM
 
Many people miss the point. Yes the woman who made the fake persona is a mean, heartless, evil, vicious person who needs a good bit of karma to bite her in the @$$. But if you ridicule me on this website, I’m not going to cry about is, no less kill myself. In fact, I don’t even have to look at the stupid website if I don’t like what I see. Watch your own kids! Blaming other people is pointless once the damage is done. Protect your kids from them in the first place. Too bad this mom wasn’t half as proactive before as she is right now. And please… teach your kids to stop worrying about what other idiots in the world think of them. Self esteem has nothing to do with what others are saying on some stupid website. Shame on us as a society for making these social networking sites so darned important….sheeeesh!
- givemeabreak!
Posted 07/07/09 02:44 PM
 
it is so simple to place blame, much harder to replace an innocent life. it is heartbreaking to loose a child. when someone has contributed to that loss, it is a travesty. perhaps meghan’s mother is trying to send a bigger message so that this does not occur again…perhaps helping many other young lives will provide her some closure so that loosing her daughter has some meaning and value…allow that.
- momk
Posted 07/07/09 02:44 PM
 
Yes Meghan’s parents are at fault for letting her in my space, however a crime is a crime, and this woman should have been given a similar punishment as to a pedophile, because she was posing as a teenager.
- Trish
Posted 07/07/09 02:44 PM
 
Parents should keep track of what their children do online, who they talk to, how their children feel (depressed, harassed, etc) and so on. If anyone should be sentenced, it’s the mother for negligence.
- KME
Posted 07/07/09 02:44 PM
 
I have also been following this story. I use this case in one of the courses that I teach. There was a comment that bullying has always been around; this is true. However, with the advancement of technology (social sites like MySpace) a lot more people get involved and the bullying is more intense. My daughter was the victim of cyberbullying. She is bright, beautiful, articulate, and yes popular. Yet, it was still very difficult to handle, especially because so many people get involved. Saying that, a parent should know better. I disagree with the judges’s decision. She needs to be held accountable for her actions!The students involved in my daughter’s case were held accountable and the school board did create new board policy.
- T-Ro
Posted 07/07/09 02:45 PM
 
The mother of the girl most likely is trying to put her own guilt off on someone other than herself. She allowed the child on and probably even thought the relationship between megan and another internet user was ‘cute’. She should take responsibility. Since the beginning of time people have played the blame game. “the devil made me do it” (serpent and eve)
- Tracy
Posted 07/07/09 02:46 PM
 
For all of you that blame Megan’s parents and say that Lori is innocent because Megan’s MySpace account was “illegal” or didn’t meet the terms and conditions, think about this. When a pedestrian jay walks, does the law allow for a driver to run them down? No. Although the pedestrian is breaking the law by crossing outside of a crosswalk area, the law still mandates that drivers yield to pedestrians. Regardless of if Megan’s account was legal, or properly monitored, the fact here is that the neighbor, Lori Drew, is an adult that maliciously bullied/harassed a child. Had MySpace not been available, she would have found another way. This was intentional, sick, and twisted. Laws are written for governing actions. Laws are interpreted, revised, taken off the books, and rewritten due to instances where the intent of the law may not cover an issue completely. If this case proves to give Lori Drew a second chance, she should count her lucky stars and be forever grateful because of a loophole or technicality. What she did was wrong and she should be punished.
- Steve
Posted 07/07/09 02:46 PM
 
As heart breaking as this story is, I am a mother. What the woman did was wrong and I do not agree or condone her actions. I do believe that the girl that committed suicide had more serious issues than a myspace or facebook incident would have created. The girl had mental problems before any of that ever happened. I think it is wrong to blame the suicide on one person. Clearly there were existing problems.
- Anonymous
Posted 07/07/09 02:47 PM
 
This “blame the victim” thing is going a little far. No matter who you hold responsible for her “myspace” presence, the fact is that the other mom harassed this girl. If this had been done over the telephone or by mail, it would have been swiftly punished through existing harassment and fraud laws. The offending mother committed fraud and harassment over public communication lines and she should be held accountable. As it is, she will have to account to The Higher Power, Who is unlikely to excuse this immoral deed on a technicality.
- saylorscreek
Posted 07/07/09 02:47 PM
 
This is RIDICULOUS. the women freed was and is my hero. come on what did she do wrong. the so called “MOTHER” of the girl who died. is horrible is selfish only out for herself. THERE IS NO i REPEAT NO SUCH THING AS CYBER HERASSMENT. the girl ws ver very very emotionally disturbed to kill her self over some so stupid. and the mother if any good. should have known it. i mean who takes the internet so seriously. get a life lady. i feel sorry for you.
- Darin GLANVILLE
Posted 07/07/09 02:47 PM
 
i have had a near death experience and all i can tell you lori is that there is a place called hell.
- alfredo
Posted 07/07/09 02:47 PM
 
I definately believe that Lori should pay a very high price for the death of this girl.I am with her mother 100%.Please let’s teach people not to do actions of this kind…however the karma eventually will catch up with her !
- Maria
Posted 07/07/09 02:48 PM
 
I feel for mom, Tina. However, I caution her about getting too expectant of federal legislation. After all, if law is written which forbids meaness and harm on the internet, all those democrats who despise Sarah Palin would implode. That would be millions of votes.
- Steve H.
Posted 07/07/09 02:48 PM
 
It appaling to her the victims mother make comments as to this mother reading the terms of the service agreement seeing that you must be 15years old to have a myspace. How dare you call yourself a victim and blame the ‘suspect’ for your own actions based on her not following the rulesw of the site when you were not following the rules yourself and none of this would have happened if you the vicitm was doing what you were supposed to. That rule is in place to prevent the immaturity consequinces that may take place on the site based on it being socail networking open to the general public.
- Rachel
Posted 07/07/09 02:48 PM
 
She is an adult and what she did was cruel…cold hearted…callus…and childish. What she did was completely tand totally wrong and she should be held responsible for the actions that she committed. There needs to be a lot mroe restrictions on the internet, not targetting people…harrassing…a life has been lossed because of this woman’s insenstiveness and it needs to be punished.
- Natasha
Posted 07/07/09 02:49 PM
 
Simple, i have a boy 11 years old and a daughter 18 yrs and i do not have internet at home.
- Gina
Posted 07/07/09 02:49 PM
 
The ADULT who intentionally misrepresented themself online should definitely be held responsible and accountable for the harm caused to this young girl—maybe a precedent of this nature will safe someone elses child from the same fate.
- Bev
Posted 07/07/09 02:49 PM
 
saa1950 is absolutly right.Im sorry if it offends you, but there are rules for a reason. Im not sayin her death is a suitable punishment, but damn there are repercussions for people who do not comply with these rules. Im sorry for her loss, but i hope this is an ‘eye-opener’ for everyone.
- Tommy
Posted 07/07/09 02:50 PM

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