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MySpace Victim's Mom Seeks Justice

Wednesday, July 8, 2009
filed under: family

Tina Meier talks to momlogic.

myspace suicide mom tina meier with photos of megan meier

Last week, a federal judge tentatively threw out the convictions of Missouri mom Lori Drew, who had been charged with fraud in connection with a fake MySpace page targeting her 13-year-old neighbor, Megan Meier. Megan Meier later committed suicide.

Megan's mom, Tina Meier, talks to momlogic about this shocking ruling.

momlogic: When did you find out about the judge's decision, and what was your reaction?

Tina Meier: The decision came down on Thursday, July 2nd. I feel aggravation and disappointment. I truly feel that the message the judge is sending out is a bad one. It's stating that if we as individuals use the Internet and don't read the terms of service, we can still make a false profile, harass someone, impersonate someone, and do whatever we want ... and if something happens, we are not held liable because we didn't read the terms of service. This is a horrible message to be sending sexual predators, husbands, wives, exes, and anyone who wants to cause harm or get revenge on someone else. Now, what I am doing with the Megan Meier Foundation is asking anyone who disagrees with the judge's decision to please contact the judge's court clerk and let him know why you disagree. The judge's decision is not 100% until it's in writing. I am not sure when that will be, so I am asking people to write him as soon as possible. The AP did an article right after the decision and they did an online survey asking how many people agreed with the ruling. Over 90,000 people clicked on the survey and over 89% disagreed. These are people who use the Internet. We need to stand up and protect our children. This is one step towards asking the judge to do something positive and set a precedent.

ML: Where will you go from here?

Tina: I am fighting to let the judge know there are people out there who disagree with his ruling. If he doesn't read the letters or listen, then there is nothing more I can do, but we need to get our voices heard. The jury found Lori Drew guilty, but he threw out the decision and now she goes free. Right now, the decision is still tentative until it's in writing, which is again why I am asking people to write the judge as soon as possible.

I can't let this decision stop the course I am on. I am going to continue to get out there. There are two components. The first is legislative. There is a federal bill out there that has been proposed by Congresswoman Linda Sanchez in California. We need a law that will state if you use the Internet to harm or harass someone, you need to be held accountable -- just like when you drink and drive and kill an innocent family on the road, you need to be held responsible. On the federal level, it will cover everyone, and not just go state by state. The second component is to get into the schools and continue to talk and educate the kids, parents, educators, etc. We need kids to understand the effects this has on others, when they get into arguments or harass each other online. I want to show them real life stories of how people have taken their lives when this could have been prevented.

Do you think the judge's decision should be overruled? Comment below.


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2 irresponsible moms = 1 girl paying the ultimate price
- Anonymous
Posted 07/07/09 03:05 PM
 
First of all, it wasn’t Facebook, it was MySpace, and you are not breaking the rules to be a member once you are 13, which Megan was. Lori Drew is an adult, suposedly, and should be sentenced. I, for one, am definately writing to that judge.
- MassMOM
Posted 07/07/09 03:05 PM
 
I say don’t judge until you walk in someone elses shoes. I blocked my daughters use of Myspace. Little did I know there are proxy sights to get around that. If all of this happened in the newspaper…wouldn’t slander come into play. There needs to be laws for the internet that cover such cases as this. The mom who commited this crime should be publicly humiliated if anything at all! It should live with her the rest of her days!
- LEA
Posted 07/07/09 03:06 PM
 
If you think that Meghan is the only 13-year-old with a myspace account, you are sadly mistaken. However, I think we need to put that aside for a moment and remember that Meghan was child and this was a grown woman harrassing her. Obviously this woman should have had more common sense. She is a mom, too, and to think that she could treat someone else’s child like this is appalling. There needs to be some type of punishment for her behavior. If she had verbally harrased this child to her face there would have been consequences. Just because she did it in a cowardly fashion behind a computer screen does not mean that she should have the right to walk away without some type of disciplinary measures being invoked upon her. As far as this woman being blamed for Meghan’s suicide, I do not think that is the case. I think she is being planned for the continual harrassment that lead to the suicide, but neccessarily being blamed for the actual suicide itself.
- molly
Posted 07/07/09 03:06 PM
 
Just a note back to good ole Rick. People who think in concert with you…are the scary ones pal!!!! This situation has an ADULT, making a decision to victimize a CHILD, to the point of suicide!! A CHILD!!! Any person with the lack of foresight to grasp that…is truly sad!!! I love todays liberal mindset…let’s blame everyone EXCEPT the turd responsible!!
- TC
Posted 07/07/09 03:06 PM
 
This makes me just SICK TO MY STOMACH for Megan and her family! Lori Drew should absolutely be punished and held accountable for her cruel intent! I sincerely hope and pray that the Judge overturns his decision and establishes to everyone that there ARE consequences to your actions! ~GOD BLESS MEGAN’S FAMILY~
- sn
Posted 07/07/09 03:06 PM
 
I think this is a disgrace, the judge should have sentenced the disturbed mother. Not only does what she did and no punishment show the world it is ok to harass people through the internet, being done by a grown adult only allows kids to really believe what she did is ok. The judge needs to truly reconsider his decision in this case, and look at what message he is sending the entire world.
- Alicia
Posted 07/07/09 03:06 PM
 
My ex best friend made a fake myspace to try to break up me and my boyfriend. Sadly it almost worked. Why can’t people just live their lives and stop trying to wreck others!
- debbie
Posted 07/07/09 03:07 PM
 
I think that Tina Meier needs to shut her mouth and stop going after that nutcase of a women. People don’t just immediately kill themselves, there had to be a period of time where it was obvious something was wrong. If you’re that out of touch with your child you shouldn’t be a parent.
- Anonymous
Posted 07/07/09 03:07 PM
 
I can’t believe how insensitive some people are! yes, the 13 year old had some mental issues and yes, the parents of the victim should’ve kept a close tab on her, but that really does NOT change the fact that a GROWN ADULT harassed and drove the fragile Meagan to commit suicide. In my book “THAT IS F**ING WRONG, PERIOD! That judge outta be ashamed and those of you blaming her and the victims parents are all ruthless! I HOPE KARMA WILL FIND THAT CHILD MURDER!
- bkim23
Posted 07/07/09 03:08 PM
 
im sorry about this loss i really am i myself lost a boyfriend from suicide, but its not the creepy nighbors fault she killed herself that girl obviousily had some demons already depression is easily concealed by people i know i suffered depression as a child and still deal with it today her mother should of payed more attention that plus duh the damn internet is everywhere always anyone even the pope if he wanted to could be anyone just lurking so use commen sense parents monitor your kids give them freedom but watch over them isnt that what you should be doing in the first place!?! the computer, Tv, Ipod ect isnt a babysitter!
- michelle
Posted 07/07/09 03:08 PM
 
This seems to me to be the same as murder. Maybe the judge got paid off. He should be taken off the case and the case reheard.
- J. Van Tuyle
Posted 07/07/09 03:08 PM
 
ummmmm,
- amii
Posted 07/07/09 03:08 PM
 
FIRST OF ALL I DO FEEL FOR THE MOTHER, BUT AT THE SAME TIME, PARENTS HAVE TO BE MORE RESPONIBLY FOR WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THERE CHILDREN THESES DAYS.EITHER THE DAUGHTER WASNT GIVING ENOUGH SKILLS TO DEAL WITH BAD THINGS IN LIFE. OR MOM WAS OVER PROTECTED . A FRIEND OF MINE
- jenna
Posted 07/07/09 03:08 PM
 
“The “perpetrator” is not, and should not be responsible for the mental imbalance this teenager had and of which the parents had to have been aware. A teenager who is emotionally stable, and who has a healthy home environment would surely have been devastated and embarrassed by the cruel game, however, a healthy child would not have killed herself” - Anna So for you, Anna, this type of “cruel game” by which someone “would surely have been devastated and embarrassed” is OK to do and not require any type of accountability on the part of the doer/perp?
- anon
Posted 07/07/09 03:09 PM
 
i haven’t been following this story since it first broke, however, i don’t think this woman should be let off the hook. this was a tragedy. she should be held accountable. the judge needs to re-think his decision. it sends out a very poor message. a young girl took her own life. i can’t believe this woman is not being held accountable. it doesn’t give me a lot of faith in our judicial system. my heart goes out to tina.
- Kit
Posted 07/07/09 03:09 PM
 
It is an absolute outrage that this woman is not going to jail. The judge had an opportunity and duty to punish this evil woman. The only positive note is Tina’s sheer determination to keep on fighting. Our hearts and prayers are with her!
- Kathy
Posted 07/07/09 03:10 PM
 
I think the judge is wrong. By making this decision he is not only saying that it is okay for people to raise their children to be cruel to others, but he is going to make a loop hole for those who are in court in the future with charges for making false account that are stalkers, sex predators, etc…
- Anonymous
Posted 07/07/09 03:10 PM
 
If Lori Drew had done this to her spouse she could be charged with psychological spouse abuse; if she had done it to her own child she could be charged with psychological child abuse. But, she does it to a neighbor and some of you think it is OK? Lori Drew used a false identy to slander and harass a young girl in a public forum, that to me is a criminal act and deserves to be punished accordingly.
- Jake Bechtel
Posted 07/07/09 03:11 PM
 
um you people are crazy who say she wasnt old enough to be on myspace. 13 & is the age limit. she was 13. and maybe she shouldnt have been talking to someone she didnt know but teens have so much stress on them sometimes they feel talking to someone they dont know might be best. and that mother should go to jail for harrassing her and pretending to be someone else. that is sick and wrong. dont blame her mother for letting her get a myspace bc guess what if she didnt let her she would have done it anyways…. she a teen are you people blind?
- Anonymous
Posted 07/07/09 03:11 PM

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