My good friend, who also happens to be a party planner/wedding coordinator, says it's strictly up to the mother and father; so that means, it's up to the mother. "If the second baby is a different gender than the first, it's more acceptable to have another shower," she told me. "Because now you need all new boy or girl baby clothes."
A smaller, more intimate shower is another way to go. Just invite your core group of friends, have lunch, and cherish a last meal with your best friends ... at least, the last meal together for a little while.
Personally, I say "absolutely yes" to a second shower. As a second child myself, I feel the second child always gets the shaft, and it starts from birth. There's not the same level of excitement about the second pregnancy; it seems parents never take as many pictures of the second child as they did with the first; that child is destined for a lifetime of hand-me-downs and "Oh, you're so-and-so's little sister." This kid deserves his/her own shower.
Themes -- such as asking guests to bring their favorite children's book as a gift -- are a unique way to make the shower different from the first. After all, let's be realistic: you probably don't need all the major equipment that you needed the first time around.
|Georgie Hockett is the co-founder (and original bride!) of A Grand Wedding.com, the only online resource featuring wedding vendors with a service or product under a thousand dollars. Georgie is also the author of two chick-lit novels. Mom of one.|