Georgie Hockett: Finding out that you're newly pregnant is exciting and you want to tell the world; but doctors always say it's safer to wait until after the first trimester. Do you tell everyone now and deal with bad news later, or wait until everything is "safe"?
For me, I tell. Because I figure if something happens, everyone will be wondering why I'm so upset. By coming out with it up front, everyone is there to celebrate with me ... and there to support me if it wasn't meant to be.
I asked my doctor what she thought, and she admitted that it's ultimately up to the parents to decide when to spill the beans. "But perhaps," she added, "it is easier to handle everything quietly, between the two parents, if the situation does change."
When polling my friends, it's basically 50-50. I've had some people tell me that they think they're pregnant, but then it doesn't last. And in those situations, I'm glad I know so I can be there for them.
I also think that miscarriages happen so often, and if no one talks about them, women don't know that miscarriages are as common as they are. Just like plastic surgery, I say come out with it. It raises the level of awareness and shows that we are all human -- a fact that often gets buried beneath the "perfect picture" of someone's life that we have in our heads, which could not be further from the truth.
Others keep it in the vault until three months later, and there are perks there, too: the pregnancy is only six months long! Either way, it's a personal choice. Just don't get me started on those who don't find out the gender!
|Georgie Hockett is the co-founder (and original bride!) of A Grand Wedding.com, the only online resource featuring wedding vendors with a service or product under a thousand dollars. Georgie is also the author of two chick-lit novels. Mom of one.|